From Fear to Fulfillment With Mo Salami

From Fear to Fulfillment: Personal Growth Lessons from Mo Salami – YouTube
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(00:00) Tony Robbins talks about six different human needs one of them is to contribute to others if contribution is right at the top of your particular tree to serve others it’s really really important to remember that you are also others so we put ourselves in this bucket where it’s I’m going to serve person a b c d all the way up to Z or Zed right we’re going to serve all these people but then we forget our own self-care we forget our own mission we forget to fill our cup you know filling our own cup isn’t an
(00:36) act of I guess greed it’s an act of been able to serve even more and and again it’s so important to for so many reasons to fill your own cup so that because some people learn from you by watching what you do some people learn by what you say but then if what you say and what you do doesn’t match I get it you can can always follow the the the what I don’t what’s the word the um the mouthpiece I get it but people watch what you do as well hello everyone and welcome to the flow over fear podcast where it is our
(01:14) mission to help you to rise above fear and realize your ultimate potential in leadership and life I’m your host Adam Hill and it is my goal to share with you the human side of high performance my guests share their experience with fear anxiety struggle Challenge and most importantly despite all of it how they Rose above it to achieve incredible results so if you’re ready to rise up let’s get started hello everyone and welcome to Flo over fear thank you so so much for being here today we have an incredible treat for you uh if you are
(01:53) in the world of personal development or or or interested in in developing yourself personally I have a great guest today his name is Mo salami and he is an online marketing expert an international keynote speaker and certified life coach and he fluently speaks many languages including English French Spanish and Brazilian Portuguese but today I think we’re going to stick with English because unfortunately that’s the only one that I’m flu in but uh Mo used to be a senior Mentor for uh the world class
(02:24) Peak Performance Guru I don’t know if you know this guy Tony Robbins uh Mo was part of his California based team and he generated tens of millions of dollars in sales for Tony’s events worldwide that’s incredible and uh Mo has done over 20,000 hours of one-on-one consulting which has included over 8,000 business owners doing $1 million in revenue or more which has creative massive value for both business and personal uh levels for for many many people and as an online marketing expert Mo helps experts
(02:57) grow or scale their online businesses while creating their ideal lifestyle his unique background with personal development at the very highest level means that he also helps you get breakthroughs during his results driven coaching sessions thank you so much for being here Mo uh I’m really really excited to talk to you today Adam I’m so blessed to be on your podcast today thanks for the invitation and uh let’s uh let’s let’s do it yeah absolutely so I I I love hearing I mean you’ve gota
(03:29) you’ve gotta an impressive background as far as what you’ve not just the people that you’ve worked with but the results that you’ve generated and I know that that doesn’t come just from you know random chants or anything like that and I love to hear people’s origin stories where they you know where they came from how they how they got to where they’re at could you give us a glimpse into into Mo how how where did you come from and and what’s your origin story Adam it started with a sign as these
(03:58) things do it started with a sign but before I get to the sign I’ll just back up a little bit and um just give a little bit of context so I’m from a family where the Holy Grail of success is education and specifically getting a science-based degree or or perhaps an accounting degree or one of those two is the Pinnacle um of success in my in my family so I did that you know I got the science degree I got the I got my first degree age 20 um in fact I have three separate degrees so I’m like a super super super success right right um so
(04:36) that was the Pinnacle so did all that stuff nice and early and what that came with was you know went to live in in a really nice neighborhood great neighbors everyone’s doing something great maybe they’re a surgeon or they’re working in in finance they’re an investment banker they they have you know a really great all of my neighbors were successful as well right and what I found Adam was that the six figure income also came with 16-hour shifts you know so working 16 hours so my weekdays and my weekends
(05:11) and the holidays and the bank holidays were work days and so I would get to the end of the year again remember I’m very very very successful right each one of those varies for for the for the degrees the college degrees and I’d get to the end of the year but I was so unsure because I was really successful but I don’t know if I felt successful and my year was always this blur of just shifts and it was I had like no free time no had wasn’t really enjoying myself as it were and which brings me nicely to this sign
(05:54) so I’m in a bookstore you know as you are and um specifically it was aook bookstore in London England you probably you know won’t be surprised by that from my accent hopefully and I saw this sign and it said how to be successful and I’d grown up in a world of chemistry biology physics mathematics and I was already successful right so I went to this sign and it turns out it was an ad for a book by Jack Canfield and that book was called the success principles and that moment was my very very first introduction to
(06:36) personal development I I hadn’t heard of it as such because I’d just been in in the Science World and um I read the book and I remember right there and then in the store I grabbed the book read the first chapter and the first chapter was about taking responsibility so ultimately Adam you I we’re responsible for everything that comes in our direction right you know we’re we’re responsible for our life so I’m reading all this brand new information read the book and like a great student I went to the back of the
(07:07) book and I ordered every single book in the back of the success principles by Jack Canfield and that’s how I found Tony Robbins that’s how I discovered T Hava another one of my mentors and ultimately that led me to discovering online marketing so fast forward uh a little bit and I’m in an online Market seminar and I looked around because my my presupposition is oh awesome every one of us will be really successful we’ll just take this info implement it we’re good to go because that’s what I
(07:43) always had done right with you know my Academia and I asked myself the question I wonder what it would be like if I were the best in the world at online marketing and more to the point what if I were the best in the world at person development and again this isn’t about being better than someone else this is about being the very best I can be so over a period of a decade I I I literally I hesitated a bit because it was a huge sum but probably $500,000 worth of courses events trainers mentors my question was always
(08:22) who’s the best and I would go to whoever they were you know so I learned digital marketing online marketing I can build websites I can code um all aspects of personal development and and then I traveled everywhere you know literally all around the world to whoever was the best I needed to be there because of my my my objective so as does happen with these signs you quickly come to a forner road and I had this forkner road like do I continue along this really great journey you know serving all these businesses
(08:56) building websites coding apps um for all these businesses or do I go work for Tony Robbins and you know obviously over there I had the opportunity to really serve and help a really great Mission and also I had the opportunity for um a high ticket consultative selling over there as well as part of the role and I’d learned sales you know I’d learned sales from Jay Abraham I’d learned sales from Chet Holmes you know love J Love chat and and i’ done a ton of you know sales training and I went down the road
(09:31) of working for Tony and over there it’s you know awesome I got to really watch and have an imp have my my piece of impact helping lots and lots and I could say lots for a while right of people really pushing forward really taking that next step and what it what I realized was that looking back over my care my short career at that time what I realized and I got the Epiphany was that sometimes we think we’re successful what’s really happening is sex stressful so then you know all of the while working for Tony and you know and
(10:13) the team and some amazing friends I have over there till this day and some amazing you know clients as well um all the while I still would keep in touch you know with my online marketing routs you know building super complicated sites in a day or half a day or doing all these other things as well and you know then eventually I I said to myself you know I I really what if I could use all these probably thousand plus um books I’ve read at this point all these courses and trainings and masterminds and mentorships and all these amazing
(10:50) things I’ve learned um here at Team Tony as well and what if I could take all those and help people find their fulfillment via the personal development and find their way as well with the online online marketing like give them different options so that’s how I got uh here um from from that sign I love that and and that’s just just from one sign I love that that that aspect of it because we walk by hundreds of signs a day I mean if not thousands I mean there there are things that could be screaming at us
(11:24) like what we should be doing or what our brains are telling us what so I have a lot of questions about all of that because there there’s a lot of turns that you took that other people might not have taken um but as far as that sign is concerned do you think that that is is that the Universe speaking to us is it is it just your your brain looking for the signals what what do you think that is that that that triggers us to see those kinds of signs wonder if it was a combination of the two because every time we’d have that countdown 10 9
(11:56) 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 New Year M I would always not know I would know what I achieved the previous year because I you know was helping people ultimately um but outside of that it was just a blur of just shifts and I was always unsure that was this really success it was that’s all I knew and then in terms of the sign perhaps at some level I was looking for that because when I saw the sign everything else went black and white everything else in in the books in the Bookshop the bookstore went black and white and that sign was in Technic color
(12:38) I don’t even remember the color of the sign but I just remember those words how to be successful and I just remember thinking what could that Poss honestly I just remember thinking what could that possibly possibly be teaching me you know what is it about how to be successful and then when I went across I saw the book a huge stack of the success principles by Jack Canfield I still have my original copy um uh funny side note I have a bunch of copies now because I have them in different in different languages as well but like when I saw
(13:13) that sign I sort of stepped into this world that I wasn’t aware of and that’s where I guess the hunger came from to I sat right there and I think I was 40% into the book or something when I actually got up and actually bought it but I sat right there in bookstore and was reading the chapters then I bought the book and then I just went to the back because I didn’t know this world and I was curious to know to know that particular world so that’s you know so I think perhaps on some level perhaps I
(13:44) was looking for the sign wow yeah I I I love that and and there’s a there’s an aspect of that too with regard to you know maybe getting into the marketing discussion um which I want to dig more into that story too but that that this idea of of that marketing piece that that that attracted you it was it was more of an attraction rather than a promotion and I’ve heard that a lot like you know in the rooms of recovery from my background was like well you know we we want to we want to we want to be attractive rather than promoting what we
(14:16) what we represent and in that marketing piece from you know what Jack Canfield had put forth on that on that sign you know you it drew you into an entirely New Direction I mean that’s That’s The Power of of marketing I mean is it is it not I mean is that does that kind of resonate with what what or is that why you wanted to jump into that field later on maybe I think you’re right Adam on on so many points here um it definitely was an attraction versus a promotion um and I I wonder if it was an identity piece as well because if you
(14:50) see yourself as successful and then there’s a sign literally that says how to be successful um and you you wonder to yourself am I on the right track here um especially if there was something telling you that perhaps there’s another way um perhaps there’s another route see I said route instead of Route so there you go oh is Route so is Route the proper way or is that the not proper way I’m not sure I think we put both ways route route tomato tomato we good it’s awesome that’s good yeah I I’m I’m never sure
(15:28) I’m not I’m definitely not a goto with with regard to language but um you know what when a lot of people see those those those signs and maybe I’m you know maybe this is just my perspective on it but you know a lot of people might just pass by those signs and say have that brief moment of what if like you know wow you know what if I were successful and then they would kind of get overshot by their negative beliefs of saying now but yeah that’s not you why don’t you go back to your job and and they’ll listen to that other
(15:56) voice and they’ll just pass by and they’ll go and they’ll continue to dream and not pursue but you know it it sounds like that might be part of your DNA and I don’t want to make assumptions or anything but you know getting getting the degrees always he you know pursuing that is that a DNA piece or is it is it something that um that we just have to be more intentional about those those callings and and and pursue them you know more intentionally so I I think for myself personally my my desire was
(16:30) always to serve other people um it just it just always was so it was a calling the how to be successful was perhaps partly for myself but more so how to be successful so I can discover this so help even more people and you better believe it would have been easier not to see the sign that day right because again I’m like probably a thousand books in um tons of seminars and and um uh networks and um masterminds is the word I’m looking for in and I’m talking highest level always even I learn I know you just did um a
(17:12) public uh speaking training course as well ad and congratulations and when I did my first one as well I just thought who I just thought and sought who is the best you know and that’s how I wound up in in Barcelona that’s how I wound up in Malaysia and you know just learning from whoever’s the best and the desire is not so much for myself it’s that so that I can help the next the person that I’m serving Jay Abraham talks about the strategy of pre preeminence and the strategy of preeminence says we don’t have customers
(17:47) we have clients you know and having a having a customer is a transaction you know here’s how much it is and by the way um which card do you have and let’s get let’s get let’s get it done and sent to you you having a client says how can I serve you at the highest level even if it means referring you um even if it means not giving you our highest ticket right let’s give you what you need and let’s serve you not just for this moment let’s serve you in a way that changes your life because guess what if I can be
(18:19) a tiny piece of changing your life you’re changing minimum eight people’s lives your your family at home your your kids if you have kids the every day when you go to you know metaphorically buy that newspaper that person is so inspired by you but you just don’t even know it you know so I think it was more speaking to this like doing the best I can to be the best me so I can help you in a plural sense be the best you and on some level that’s always been I I guess a life mission irrespective of and again
(18:54) I’m a big fan of education but irrespective of training courses and degrees and that great stuff I’ve always had the desire to help for sure yeah so that’s and that’s an incredible Mission and and I and I know that a lot of you know thinking in in my previous life where I was experiencing a lot of fear in my life and I don’t know if this is true to you too but where there was a lot of fear in my life it would be when I was internally focused and I would not be serving because I would be too afraid
(19:25) that I would not have I I I just wouldn’t be enough to do that or but it was always this internal feeling but externally focused on serving is that an active courage do you feel that’s a more courageous way to live I have a quick question so just clarify your internal feeling and then I’ll ask you question SI about about the courage for the external feeling what was your feeling you had for internally so internally the fear was really it it was manifesting as this fear that well if I’m if I’m
(19:57) focused on these things that are maybe serving others I won’t be I I’ll be sacrificing something else that may be dangerous to me like my my long-term welfare my long-term well-being you know for example like if I if I thought that there was a a good way to serve um that I knew that my talents were beneficial elsewhere but I might be you know not not showing up in the day-to-day job that I I had for instance um that that was providing my income that’s kind of where my internal feelings were at that time I I think um
(20:36) the the fact that you had those feelings says a lot about you because when the and I’m speaking based off of you know tens of thousands of consultations about this very subject and when you are so externally focused on serving others that can happen where your so focused on helping um Joe public or Jane public or the next person that you forget that charity begins home you forget yourself and you forget the ones that you love who who who are at home and one thing I always say is that when when you’re
(21:16) serving others if that’s your mission you know Tony Robbins talks about six different human needs one of them is to contribute to others if contribution is right at the top of your particular tree to serve others it’s really really important to remember that you are also others so we put ourselves in this bucket where it’s I’m going to serve person a b c d all the way up to Z or Zed right we’re going to serve all these people but then we forget our own self-care we forget our own mission we
(21:51) forget to fill our cup you know filling our own cup isn’t an act of I guess greed it’s an act I’ve been able to serve even more and and again it’s so important to for so many reasons to fill your own cup so that because some people learn from you by watching what you do some people learn by what you say but then if what you say and what you do doesn’t match I get it you can always follow the the the what I don’t what’s the word the um the mouthpiece I get it but people watch what you do as well you
(22:27) know so the the fact that you even have those internal feelings like that says so much about you that to me it sounds like your mission really is pure to serve other people but again it’s so important to remember in that you know when serving others that you are also others the people that you have at home they are also others as well um so that’s that’s what I would say yeah that that’s that’s very helpful and and I know a lot of times we forget that as far as taking care of ourselves elves
(22:58) putting our own oxygen mask on to steal uh um something that’s fairly cliche but uh how how do we find that balance I mean that’s a big question but is is it a balance or is there some formula for us on on how we can take care of ourselves and be in the best service of others how do we find that balance so I’ll just answer your previous question about courage as well um if the external is courageous I the external I think there are many different answers to to whether is an act of courage and I think it is an act
(23:36) of Courage because most people or pretty much everyone has the has that feeling and thought of I’m not enough yeah you know I’m not good enough you know impostor syndrome are the branches that extend from that initial you know I’m not enough you know platform so for sure you know stepping out there putting yourself out there in service of others is definitely an act of courage and I wonder I don’t don’t want to sound you know corny whatever but I wonder if it’s also an act of love as well you know
(24:07) literally you know gifting gifting to that other person um the gifts that you have um to gift to the world so I wonder if it’s an act of love as well but but certainly for the fact that we pretty much everyone no matter how amazing they are and we all are amazing right has that imposter syndrome feeling I’m not enough feeling so to Step Beyond that to Step Beyond the fear to step into the flow um says a lot about about yourself if if um you’re stepping into that courage for sure yeah that that’s well
(24:45) very beautifully said and and and so helpful that that you know love and love and courage almost go hand inhand a lot of times and and and I love that the that the aspect of serving is is love we’ve heard that through the generations and sometimes it’s hard to remember that when we’re when we’re in the midst of fear I suppose and and um and one of the things you you’d said kind of goes along with with one of the things I think you say a lot which is you know doing the best you can consistently and so what
(25:14) can you kind of expand on that what does that mean to you and and how how can our audiences or how can the audience really use that to their advantage to to help them to make progress absolutely so just quickly I totally forgot your last question after the courage one what was that and then I’ll jump into do the best you can consistently oh yeah yeah no I was I was just more curious about um about how to find that balance between you know uh uh between C because if we have to if we have to take care of ourselves and in order to take care of
(25:48) others what is the balance there like what what and and that may be a bigger question that is just you know Finding finding that balance individually but I’m just curious to know your thoughts on on that I think it’s a huge question and I think that most people think even the idea of a balance is preposterous right can’t find it but let’s be let’s be idealistic for a second so I I I think the way to find the balance is to split your almost split your existence your day-to-day into different parts the
(26:21) part where you’re focused on yourself you know your own self-care going to the gym as it were your ntion that you have like a a focus on on yourself even if it’s a fraction of the day um a part of the time where your focus is on you know the work that you do and the the mission that you have perhaps um the business that you have perhaps and then another part of the a day where again you’re focused internally at home where you’re focused on your loved one and your loved ones and those who love you back um and
(26:53) you’re focused on on the home so it’s having that balance of those three um and then that becomes difficult right imag imagine for example if you’re working in sales and you have this amazing uh potential double treble sales day or you can spend some time you know with your loved ones I wonder um which one is the most valuable you know longterm you know so I think um it’s just that and then an extension to that quite huge question is is having a really great day you know so I have an amazing coach and I’ll sending this
(27:30) episode to my coach as well to to listen to and now having a great life I believe and again I get it this is very simplistic and idealistic having a great life um Can can come from having a great year right and then if we divide that by 365 and for my overachievers out there 366 on on certain days certain years if we divide that that mean means having a great day and then having a great day you can start that with a platform of having a great morning and which comes which for when uh and then that comes into play our morning routines and then
(28:11) the objective of the morning routine one of the objectives of the morning routine is that when you wake up and again this is from my coach when you wake up two people wake up you wake up and your mind wakes up and then who’s going to win the day you know it’s it’s such a beautiful battle you know so if you’re in that moment where you have to perform so to speak and you’re worried you’re you’re in your fear you’re like 95% fear you can you can see the flow you know it’s just a beautiful dance between you and
(28:42) your mind right or if you’re in those moments when you feel strong you’re good you got this that’s you overtaking your mind and then guess what by the end of that day your mind will win or you will win and guess what whoever wins the day you can start again the next day do your morning routine again see who wins boom and then it’s one of those where you can just live this beautiful existence where you’ve set your intention you’ve done your part you’ve done your morning routine right and then let’s see what
(29:15) beauty that the uh the Day brings and if there are days when the mindset or the Mind wins perhaps that’s a sign to work on the mindset get a coach grab a grab a train um but again I I I repeat and reiterate if your mindset were to win the day guess what we go again tomorrow and then guess what we go again the next day and then ultimately it’s about just really stacking you winning through winning the day um uh day by day and again I think that starts really well with the morning routine and with the um do the best you
(29:56) can consistently this speaks to expertise I teach we teach I speak in I say the Royal we I I teach um having the life and the lifestyle the exact life and lifestyle that you want exactly how you you’ve written it and how you want it and part of that you’re received by the world whether we like it or not by the value that we put out in the world it has such a huge impact on how we’re received and I think there’s a difference between putting out value as the expert or putting out value as someone that just
(30:34) kind of shows up and we good and I don’t really prescribe to this go learn this in 10 days and you’re set or you know how to achieve this in five days and you’re set um it’s great I guess for momentum for a momentum piece but I think there are building blocks that get you to expertise I literally teach that I teach online business as an how to be impactful with that and I teach personal development I have six different pillars that gravitate you towards high performance personal development and
(31:09) expertise and and uh they do the best you can consistently says maybe today you’re hitting home runs and this is you know I I’m using baseball analogies I’ve never seen a baseball game ever right oh really oh we got to get we got to change that for sure we got we have to change that when over your way we have to change that the RO you’re hitting home runs or scoring the win and penalty so to speak you can have days where H you you not don’t feel up to it as such but the key is just having that consistency
(31:42) because it speaks to the results that you’re able to get eventually if you can be you know consistent and persistent with that consistency so you’re you bit by bit um gravitating towards doing the well you’re doing the best you can consistently getting the best results that you can and ultimately being the best um version you can be and and that that comes that’s stacked from how you show up every single time um you know I I would say oh I’m so I’m so glad that you you brought you brought us back to that
(32:16) question that I almost I almost uh forgot to go back to because because what you just described there was so so helpful in terms of how we you know how we approach our mindset I mean and and I am a big big proponent I mean I I just I I I almost nodded so much that my head fell off but uh that I’m such a big proponent of the morning the morning routine the morning method as I call it and just I and packing so much into that morning to make sure that you are taking ownership of your day because that’s the
(32:46) best part of your day to actually to take to take charge of it that that like tying that into the fact that you you know how we take care of ourselves before we can take take care of others is I think that should be a light bold moment for anybody listening to this if you want to serve others and Serve Yourself take care of your morning first take ownership of that morning first don’t just jump out of bed run downstairs grab a granola bar and hit the door take care of yourself get get that get that piece in for you and um
(33:18) and yeah that’s such a power and I’d love to um dig in a little bit more to you know you mention you have these six pillars do you mind sharing a little bit about sure absolutely so the first pillar is preparation and again the the the biggest outcome is becoming the best version of yourself becoming that expert because it’s a different um there’s a different type of value that you bring to the world if you show up as the expert versus if you just show up and one of those six pillars speaks to
(33:49) preparation you know the the more you prepare the less you despair I like to say and the the less you prepare the more you despair you know so um preparation is huge because it means you’re not starting at the beginning you know you’ve even let’s imagine you couldn’t prepare for that day but preparation is part of your routine as it were even though you couldn’t prepare today your memory remembers the preparation from yesterday or the other day or yester year you know and that all Stacks up and another one
(34:22) is showing up you know in life and in languages if you don’t Trent you will become fluent you know so just like showing up every single time every single day um also speak volumes as well because a lot of the reasons people don’t you know ultimately achieve their goals or make it to the top of you know mlo one of the reasons make make it to the top of maso’s hierarchy of needs is fear you know like really given into fear you know this you know um 92% you know studies show of things that we fear never come
(35:07) true however a huge majority of what stops us remember it’s a game it’s a dance whichever dance it can be a Selsa it can be a line dance whatever a line dance is right I don’t know what that is but like whichever type of dance it is that that mindset versus yourself you know that fear you know it’s it speaks to being able to live in uncomfort um once you can embrace the fear as Susan Jeffer says Feel the fear and do it anyway all of a sudden the fear becomes smaller and as as you would say it the flow becomes larger and
(35:47) you’re able to really like live every every part of you on the cellular level even because you’re really living in flow you know as opposed to in in fear you know so that’s what it just speaks to just like really be becoming becoming overcoming fear using competency um and then that competency leads to your confidence and then that confidence leads to just just regular flow and and flow becomes your your brand new normal and then when you have the next day your mindset has no chance for that day to win that day when you
(36:26) wake up your feet hit the ground your mindset is like oh my gosh I I I I don’t have any tools anymore that they’re not fearful anymore they w flow and then that’s it I think yeah um so in terms of the pillars that I teach it’s there are six pillars and like I said it’s just all about that um embracing the uncomfort you know most people they they stay comfortable living this life that they loathe and very few few people get uncomfortable to create the life that they love yeah and I feel like I feel like
(37:04) that shortterm avoidance of discomfort leads to long-term discomfort and um and long-term pain so it’s it’s I I I mean I can’t speak enough to that that that that that fear that you’re that that people are feeling um and and I love this message because you know that fear that people feel is signal more than um than than anything else and when we can look at it is just like feelings are okay it’s okay to feel that discomfort but just you know just pursue it anyway that’s where we grow
(37:41) and and over time that’s what leads to that competence so I like that that so that’s your showing up section of showing up you know living kind of embracing the discomfort a bit and then you know continuing to grow absolutely just embracing that discomfort whatever whatever that day brings like really embracing it showing up and showing up and showing up and showing up you know a lot of people um I I I almost didn’t I want to say it doesn’t sound very humble but a lot of people say to me wow it’s so amazing
(38:13) it’s a miracle um that you speak four languages fluently I speak English French Spanish Portuguese fluently and the truth is it’s not it’s not amazing um for a few reasons one is that I actually speak more than four languages that’s the first thing but the second reason it’s not that amazing is because the capacity of a human being is unlimited it’s just truly unlimited you know Studies have shown that you know a human being again one person’s language is another person’s different mission
(38:48) right but the capacity of a human being it’s possible to learn 50 languages fluently you know and again for myself it’s you know languages that that sper on as it were for someone else it could be something else their mission that they have or you know that step that they’re trying to take and and the bigger picture is that these things aren’t Miracles they’re just about stepping into the fear and or stepping into the flow and or showing up like um like really showing up again I’ll repeat
(39:19) in life any languages if you don’t truin you will become fluent um and it’s again just really about I think stepping into the fear and then here’s the thing what does fear mean really you know what is the meaning that we give fear I wonder if if we didn’t have fear I wonder if life would be very very boring oh yeah if you do have fear what does it mean really does it mean that you’re alive does it mean that something amazing is about to happen does it mean that you’re about to grow as a person does it mean
(39:51) that the fear that you have today when you look back will be so tiny tomorrow you know does it mean that you’re stepping into flow and does it mean that once you step into flow that you’ll flow and you’ll flow and you’ll flow and there’s no turning back you know does it mean you get to really like live the the greatest version of you so that when you look back you can look back and say to yourself to your loved ones to those who love you back you can say to each other we did it or because you left behind
(40:21) fear and you took that decision that flow is the way yeah you know so you know so I so again like perhaps I wonder the meaning you give to fear and if it can be redefined into something else that every time fear comes up every time that nut comes up in the stomach every time that feeling of um not being enough or that imposter syndrome comes up something exciting is about to happen because you’re in fear and you’re about to enter through the portal to the to the good side right to to the flow I wonder if if that could serve you better
(40:55) than being fear for a fear yeah it’s so so beautifully beautifully said and um and and I would invite uh you know the people listening to really consider that in their own lives because as you’re saying that I’m thinking about my own life and my own experiences with fear and where I’ve experienced you know fear and gone through it anyway and just done the thing anyway the thing that was scaring me had the crucial conversation or or uh or did the thing that was a little uncomfortable on every experience that I
(41:30) could think through right now I’m more fulfilled happier more joyous and everything that is making me uh you know feeling feel that that discomfort now is everything in the future that I just don’t want to do but I know I need to and I yeah if we could listen to that voice a little bit and and just kind of look at more as a signal that would be more powerful absolutely there’s a whole study by oh nigh and girl where they took 25 year olds I wonder if you you’re probably aware of this The Strangest
(42:01) Secret they took 25 year olds and studied them for 40 years you know so I’m I don’t know the number for argument sake let’s say 100 you know so it’s a nice round number so they studied these 25 year olds till they were 65 and 4% of them so by 25 they were full of you know energy desire ambition and you know we definitely going to have this amazing life because in inverted commas I deserve this nobody deserves this by the way um by by the age of 65 4% of them had achieved the life that they wanted you know if you’re talking
(42:40) about a different study uh 80 year olds they studied surveyed and studied 80 year olds what percentage Adam of 80 year olds you typically live the life that they wanted to to live without this huge Lany of reget versus the life that they wanted what percentage would you would you say have have lived the life that they wanted to by the time they’re 80 wow based on what I’ve seen I I I certainly could only guess at the at the exact percentage but I know that it’s well over 50% it has to be right that that have
(43:16) lived or haven’t lived the life they want that have have have not lived the life that they had wanted so yeah that I think the number of people that have is is very low the number of people have you’re absolutely right the number of people to have is incredibly low Adam 2% of people so the study from 25 to 65 4% had had achieved it 2% of people achieve the life they want to leave the life they want to lead um by the time they’re 80 years old which is why things like the sign that I alluded to you know how
(43:47) to be successful things like working on your mindset things like looking things like listening to this podcast you know flow of fear is so important because a lot of what holds us back is the inaction you know the reaction you know after the fear typically we have a reaction and that reaction tends to be in action you know so once you can overcome that as normal once you can redefine What Fear means you know something amazing is about to happen you know obviously typically um then you can step into um the the life that you want
(44:23) and a lot of the that 2% and that 4% exactly what you just mentioned Adam it’s it’s typically I didn’t get to do this I didn’t I guess date the person I wanted to date I didn’t go for that job I didn’t go for that role I didn’t go for my mission I didn’t learn the language I wanted to learn so to speak I didn’t become a ballerina or a Pianist or a different things that are in the back of our mind and we always say oh I will um I’ll do it someday the reason I just mentioned the ballerina is because
(44:55) um when I again just finished my first degree when I was 20 I was really fascinated by and I say this in inverted commers and please bear in mind I was 20 at the time I was really fascinated by really really really old people and to me at the time that meant someone who was like 60 and I had the opportunity to be around a lot of and again I’m not you know please in the context of what I’m saying so I had the opportunity to be around a lot of 60 like older people when I was 20 and I would always ask them if you could do anything
(45:31) differently what would it be and I just remember this one lady where she said I would have been a ballerina and I said why didn’t you and then she just told the whole story that it was always in her mind too and there were always all these reasons why she couldn’t maybe she wasn’t good enough she had other people in her life that told her that oh you’re not a ballerina you’re just a you know and then she said she’d carried it with her like all through her life that said oh I’ll do it
(45:57) at some point after this other significant period of my life has happened then I’ll do it oh then I’ll do it then then I’ll do it then then I’ll do it then and it was such a um it was such a pace for her where it was still there that she hadn’t hadn’t have done it so again Adam this is a question for you if if someone is able to is to step into that lane of flow and leave that lane of fear what type of life will they have would you say I mean they would they if if they could if they could leave their that lane of
(46:31) fear and get into the lane of flow I mean they would live an amazing life I mean it it’s just it’s such a fulfilling and wonderful life and we only get this one I feel like I mean the way you say it it’s just it’s this it’s this uh uh you know powerful certainty that comes from it and and I wonder I mean in addition so what I’m hearing there is that I need to go pursue my dream of becoming a baller that’s what I’m hearing but that’s what you’re hearing absolutely and here’s the
(47:00) thing here’s the thing about the lane of fear and the lane of flow right now the the lane of fear is more exciting the lane of flow is more exciting the the um the lane of fear is just one lane you know zero one fear not fear it’s just that one lane the lane of flow is more exciting because there are multiple Lanes we’re not saying and again I was hesitant to to start talking about you know reading thousands of books you know which you know a thousand books which I have at this point and all these different things I I have done now
(47:33) part of my hesitation was that flow doesn’t mean going to find unless you want it to mean that going to find who’s the best in the world and doing all this stuff and it means what it means to you or my definition of flow you know so that flow Lane there are different Lanes there’s the super you know Highway there’s the lane in the middle there’s a lane on the end and the beautiful thing about flow is is just be in flow it for the flow that fits your life your world the way you want to live your life you
(48:03) know flow might be a part-time thing where you’re doing it part of the time you get to get to have that that Joy because you’re living you’re in who you who you want to be and who you are for part of your week as it were for part of your day flow might be actually I’m moving everything aside and fully going for my mission and I’m in full flow of 100% a th% you know flow might be somewhere in between but that super highway of flow says you can choose the one that you want and you can be getting
(48:36) to be you know having that excitement that exciting feeling of fear that comes up all the time but then there’s that fear Highway where the other highway where you get to be scared of 92% of things that aren’t going to happen anyway and then you get to step into that you know um I guess it’ll be 96% of people who buy 65 still have all these unchecked boxes so to speak or by 80 they they haven’t lived the the life that they want and again we I teach that living the life that you want so it’s not
(49:13) someone else’s prescription that you must do this or go learn a bunch of languages or or learn a bunch of dances you know or con tipto right that’s I guess you know what Bas do right um it just means the life and the lifestyle that you want the exact life and the lifestyle that you want it’s up to you you know you can curate the life that you wish to create it’s up to you and then as long as you just step into as long as you listen to a bunch of episodes of Adam’s podcast step into your flow and you can pick
(49:46) your lane it’s fine you know and then here’s the thing that’s not to say um there’s a phrase that says um stay in your lane that’s not to say that oh this is your level that’s to say this is your level if that’s the level that you pick you know if you metaphorically want to learn metaphorically one language more four languages more 50 languages more or beyond the capacity of a human being is unlimited Your Capacity is unlimited so you just now have to find out or put down what it is you want exactly what
(50:23) you want exactly the way you want it and then things like finding your why stepping into who you are stepping into your flow the services of mentors and coaches such as myself and Adam um well finding finding other Solutions is what I’m trying to say will certainly get you there and why because there’s so much evidence of people doing um the the possible that perhaps at one stage um they thought wasn’t as possible as as as it is that’s so it’s so so true and and I I love that the way that you’re
(50:54) describing that because you I have never heard the idea of flow and and fear being presented as as a highway and different Lanes but that’s such a a great metaphor for that because we always have that capability to move into that lane and it and and a lot of times it takes it takes that that you know that that level of embracing courage and and and moving from one lane to another and I wonder you know when you when you speak of you know you’re 20 years old and you were listening to um you know elderly people at the time of you know
(51:29) who who were who were talking about what they wish they had done did did that help guide your decision later to U make the jump in your own life where you were you know in this six-figure career working those 16 hours kind of you know bringing the cycle home uh to to make that leap into you know what your true passion was of serving others and you know going off to work with Tony Robbins and going to embrace all of this uh um you know hundreds of thousands of dollars of of education is that was that kind of the trigger for that or how did
(52:04) you take that leap thousand per thousand perc I always remember that lady and just what she was saying about wanting to be that ballerina and and part of the reason I did those surveys unofficial surveys as it were was to discover I guess what is the meaning of life and what should we be doing with our life and you know it it definitely served as a platform because do you know how amazing it is like at one point I I said to myself huh I wonder what it would be like to learn a language and I had a few people say it’s not possible for you Etc
(52:43) I don’t want to go there too much but it’s not possible you can’t all that great stuff and I learned a language and then I learn another one then I learn another one if you look at um different studies they they say that um is it between 4: and 8 is the optimal time to learn the language and then and again I’m speaking about languages but I’m using this as a metaphor for what your version of languages is that you want for for your life so they say between four and8 is the optimal time you know probably true
(53:14) as an adult you can’t because of this reason that reason and let’s make a list of um limiting beliefs Adam do you know how beautiful it is when I reach into my uh corridor right see I’m speaking to both sides of the Atlantic right I reach into the corridor I go into the hallway and when I go there I have four doors the first door is a green door the next one is a blue door the next one is a red door and the next one is a yellow door and when I enter each one of those doors The Green Door is I I don’t consider any language
(53:47) to be my first language I try and live them equally when I open that green door that’s my english- speaking door and I can interact with different people from all walks of life and guess why because it’s it’s more or less my my first Lang I say more or less I have a language before that more or less my first language and then or and or I can open the blue door and oh my gosh if you talk about my definition of what makes me happy what is my equivalent of winning the L Lotto whatever it’s just speaking
(54:20) French that’s it speak in the French language I can open the blue door and speak queca or regular French or or French with slang if I’m speaking to someone who’s cool right or business French or I can go to the red door and speak in espanel with a Hispano Plante and then we can and we can start having that conversation about Spanish from Spain or Spanish from the I think it’s the 27 countries corre me if I’m wrong Spanish speakers listening to this that speak all different types of of Spanish
(54:51) and then and then I start and then they say oh I’mma speak a little bit uh slower for you and then I say to them there’s no need because we listen way faster than anyone could ever speak so you can speak as fast as you want and then guess what I get to go to the yellow door and then and then speak in Portuguese and not just in Portuguese in Brazilian Portuguese do you know how amazing that is and it’s it’s not like a miracle it is from a lot of preparation and showing up and there’s a whole big
(55:20) story behind that but but the the great the um the point I’m trying to make is the on the other side you’ve got fear do you remember that you know highway it’s kind of a slip Road at this point but then you’ve got that highway where you step into flow and then the flow it opens up all these different worlds for you for me it’s that Corridor like I literally um there are seven days in the week I have one official day where I speak English and it’s not today by the way but I have one official day where I
(55:52) speak English that’s it wow so let’s say you send me a note or a text or something any notes I write to myself are in English if it’s a Monday right um on a Tuesday uh it’s French is my language I speak or if I write anything it’s in French Wednesday Spanish you know where this is going Thursday Portuguese and then it’s not till Friday again French uh Saturday Spanish Sunday Portuguese and my mindset is that none of these are my native tongue they’re all my native tongue right and and again
(56:25) if there’s that it could be as simple as you want to play the guitar or something or you want you have a purpose and your tribe that you want to serve on your level or there’s something that you know for a fact that you’ve got it in you to do and there’s impostor syndrome or I’m just a I’m just a fill in the blank right that says you can’t or all these other reasons that you can’t this is what lays on the other side of of the flow Super Highway you know the the ability to step into
(56:59) your version of your hallway and live in flow you know and then because you’ve stacked living and flow the next time someone says by the way Joe public or Jane public by the way it’s better this isn’t for you you know better because you have evidence of stepping through the fear imagine the fear of going to speak a whole another language you’ve got gotten to flow got to and again this is a metaphor for what you want like getting into what it is that you want you have previous I already achieved that I already uh moved
(57:35) to that place that I wanted to move to I already achieved that great you know love life or or I guess relationship that I wanted I achieved that level of income that I wanted you know um I achieved instead of working 60 70 80 hours a week successful I achieved or really sex stressful I achieved 20 hours a week and I get to Holiday four times a year if I want to I get to you know travel or whatever it is that’s the life and the lifestyle that you want is what lives way on the other side of of the of the beautiful game that is fear that
(58:16) shows up all the time ah I love that that is so so good um you are you are a master of metaphors of putting of putting the audience in a in a room in a in a scenario where they can imagine this and just that that is so inspiring to hear with regard the to the the corridors and that last way you put it um you know just this beautiful game of fear I always love to look at fear as a gift and it really is I think you’ve demonstrated that today there’s a number of different corridors or hallways that we can go down today but I I I know that
(58:49) we’re you know right right at the hour here and um and and um I would love to know how people can find you if they want to connect with you if they want to work with you as a as a coach or if they want to learn learn your your secrets and and all that how can they get in touch with you absolutely um just before I I I tell that Adam there’s in French my apologies I had to put something in here French this this uh this session in French right they um they say there’s a there’s a phrase for b annivers or or
(59:22) annivers which is you know happy birthday right right but then they also some also celebrate non anniversary so that way you get to celebrate every day because one day is your birthday the rest of the days aren’t your birthday and just piggybacking off what you said about the gift of fear imagine you have that one day a year unless you’re a member of the royal family you have like two days or something I don’t know you have that day a year when it’s your birthday everyone’s loving on you it’s your day
(59:51) and you have other days like Christmas and whichever holiday you celebrate which is similar but then and then you get all these gifts but then you also get the non annivers they not your birthdays which we can switch out to the days when fear shows up that beautiful gift of I have to step out on stage so to speak or I have to go and that’s the number one fear of the human being right being speaking in public or I have to perform in some way I have to I have to go for my goal finally and then that fear shows
(1:00:25) up it’s your non anniversary you know it’s that gift that’s not on your birthday it gets to happen every single day multiple times what a beautiful gift what an aliveness that you’re having if you’re experiencing fear because if you’re experiencing fear and you’re ready to step into it the next thing that’s going to happen and if you don’t believe me ask Adam Hill the next thing it’s going to happen is the flow happens next if you um I teach that you know you can create the life and the lifestyle
(1:00:56) that you’d want to create you can cre you can create you can curate the life and lifestyle you want to create um it’s up to you and the way that I teach it is two ways one is by the impact that you can have and the second is by fulfillment a lot of times you know finances hold people back from the life and the lifestyle that they want so the way that we teach impact is adding value out there in this world and the more value that you add and do it at the level of being an expert and specifically adding value via having
(1:01:26) your own online business and you can do that via one of two ways well there are lots of ways but two ways that we teach are one is that perhaps you love your ninetto five so to speak and but you want some more financial options you can give yourself the option to have that side hustle of an online business that brings in the extra six figures for your family or you can go all in perhaps you have your tribe that you want to serve your bigger mission and vision that you have for the people that you want to serve go all in with your online
(1:02:00) business aim for that you know mid six figures or Beyond seven figures whichever one so we teach that’s what we teach in terms of impact so we teach you all the steps I’ve been in you know the online game for well over online business game for well over 12 years we teach you that the other part is is this because once you have you know the success the Fulfillment part is huge it’s definitely needed and often times people discover that when they get to the end of the success like woohoo I’m so successful but everything around me
(1:02:31) is you know um uh just not not in the way that it should be so we teach fulfillment via personal development um coaching so I do have a strategy call strategy session just go to mami. comom free call and if you forget just remember this mami. ComFree call and um so just go there schedule a free call um we’ll do a strategy session you’ll get a ton of value on the actual session itself and then you’ll also get to know whether we’re a good fit to work together um uh so that’s it most.
(1:03:08) com freec call if you’re wanting to know more about me in general go to mami. comom blog and there are a bunch of different bits and Bobs on there um that tell you a little bit more about what I do so that’s that’s what what it is I would say thank you so much for sharing all of that because I mean you are you Mo are truly a guy that that not only has all of this knowledge hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of training and education working with the best in the world like Tony Robbins and not only
(1:03:38) that generating value for millions of dollars of value for Tony Robbins and uh tens of thousands of hours of experience working with with people and businesses to to create millions of dollars of Revenue you you also talk the talk you’ve done this in your own life you’ve you’ve you’ve put these practices to work and that’s where you can get the most powerful mentorship in coaching and it’s been such a thrill to have you on this show and for you to share some of that knowledge with us today and we’ve
(1:04:09) only scratched the surface and I really hope that um people who are listening who could use this kind of help in their in their own lives or on their own business or they’re feeling that overwhelmed or they want to turn that fear into flow uh in their own lives and they want that impact and fulfillment which are the two greatest things that we can have in the world reach out to Mo um that’s mami.
(1:04:33) ComFree call again and you can learn more about him on his blog thank you so much Mo for joining us today I’m so grateful for spending this time with you I learned a lot and I know our audience did too thank you so much for being here Adam thank you so much for the invitation and I just want to say about yourself as well that I know that when I’m listening to the uh flow of a fe podcast there’s always like a a minimum level of greatness in every single episode really enjoyed and as you know I’ve listened i’ I’ve mentioned to
(1:04:57) you a few times listened to lots of episodes keep doing what you’re doing and you’re such a great Testament to to showing up you know so keep doing the great things you’re doing and uh yeah thanks thank you for what you do for sure thank you Mo and uh I really appreciate the kind words and to everyone out there I appreciate you being here please please share this episode subscribe and and rate it and um yeah share it with your friends because they can get a lot from this as well thanks again Mo and to everyone else out
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