Are you ready to overcome your fears and start living your dreams? In this powerful episode, Adam Hill shares how he was able to change his relationship with fear after getting sober. He discusses how writing down all of his fears, big and small, was a breakthrough exercise that helped him understand the root causes. Adam also explains that most non-danger fears can be categorized as fears of uncertainty, overwhelm, or self-doubt. He provides insightful strategies for facing your fears head–on by consistently pushing just outside your comfort zone in small, manageable steps.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Discovering opportunities in fear and overcoming obstacles
- The healing power of naming your fears
- The three root causes of “non-danger” fears
- Overcoming fear and uncertainty through mindfulness and visualization
- Turning fear into opportunities for growth
[05:01] Discovering Opportunities in Fear and Overcoming Obstacles
- Fear can seem like a significant obstacle in life. The challenge lies in our inability to see fear as an opportunity when we continuously fight against it. Instead, we often perceive fear as a hindrance to our achievements, leading to frustration and giving up on our dreams or goals too soon. As Adam progressed through the steps of AA, fear transformed into an obstacle that could be overcome through these steps:
- Admitting powerlessness: Adopting a more philosophical perspective by acknowledging that we lack control over our lives.
- Reconnecting and reshaping: This entails admitting the presence of a higher power, be it God or another guiding force, and accepting its support.
- Committing to acceptance: Involves wholeheartedly accepting the higher power and its role in our lives, which can be a crucial aspect of recovery for many individuals.
- Taking action through personal inventory: Emphasizes action and involves engaging in introspection. Writing plays a significant role in this process as it allows us to take a comprehensive personal inventory of ourselves.
[10:55] The Three Root Causes of “Non-Danger” Fears
When Adam wrote down all of his fears during his Alcoholics Anonymous program, he noticed most of them were not related to actual dangers. He realized the non-danger fears could typically be categorized into three core root causes:
- Uncertainty – Being afraid of the unknown future and what to expect. Not having control or knowledge.
- Overwhelm – Feeling like there is too much stacked on a person or the weight of the world is too much to handle. Experiencing a massive amount of things to do.
- Self-doubt – Not believing in oneself and doubting one’s ability to achieve dreams or goals. Seeing dreams as too far away to comprehend or achieve.
[18:10] Fear as an Opportunity for Growth
Viewing fear as an opportunity for growth can help you change your relationship with it. When you feel fear, it usually means you are pushing up against the boundaries of your comfort zone. This is where growth happens. Rather than seeing fear as something to avoid or fight against, see it as a signal that you’re expanding into new territory that will help you develop. Small, consistent steps outside your comfort zone of only 5% at a time can significantly help you grow over the long run. Pushing too far too fast may lead to burnout.
Be Your Future Self Now by Benjamin Hardy
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