The Foundation of Transformation: Three Things You Need to Change Your Life -

Are you struggling to maintain momentum in achieving your goals? In this video, I share my experience with transformation and the foundation that can help you change your life. I’m not a mental health professional, but I believe everyone is capable of making the transformation they truly desire. I discuss the challenges we face in maintaining transformation amidst daily struggles and the importance of focusing on the things we can control.

Join me to learn about the three most crucial things that can serve as a foundation to help you make that transformation.

1. Willingness

2. Leverage

3. Community

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Transcript

instead say can I just be willing right
now in this moment
right now one step at a time
and acknowledge imperfection that’s okay
because it’s not about perfection it’s
about progress
hello everyone and welcome to the flow
over fear podcast where it is our
mission to help you to rise above fear
and realize your ultimate potential in
leadership and life I’m your host Adam
Hill and it is my goal to share with you
the human side of high performance my
guests share their experience with fear
anxiety struggle Challenge and most
importantly despite all of it how they
Rose above it to achieve incredible
results so if you’re ready to rise up
let’s get started hey everyone welcome
to this episode of flow over fear and
three things and today I want to share
three things that you need in your life
to transform your life whether it be a
healing transformation or an empowering
transformation these are the three
elements that I found in my own life uh
and and in my experience with
interviewing others that it takes to
have that transformation
now I want to say right off the bat that
I don’t have any letters after my name
I’m not a mental health professional and
uh and by no means is this medical or
psychological advice this is simply my
experience and simply my opinion on on
how we can change so if you need medical
assistance please get it uh if you need
help know that there is support out
there know that there is uh that there
is support out there for whatever you
need please reach out get the help you
need uh but uh ultimately
when it comes down to my opinion on on
these things and and how we can
transform Our Lives my opinion is and my
belief is
that everyone in this world is capable
of making the transformation that they
desire that they truly desire and the
problem is is that we struggle when we
when we have that desire when we have
that impulse or or that desire to change
that a lot of times we struggle to
maintain momentum
amidst the daily struggles the daily
challenges we find
it becomes difficult to uh to maintain
that transformation when when the things
around us are impacting us the things
that are outside of our control
and the result is that when that happens
when we when we
when we have those moments of weakness
we fall back into our old habits
and we continue to remain dreamers
people who are dreaming about the result
that we want in our lives that
transformation we want without having
actually uh feeling like we’re able to
achieve it
and that’s a that’s a very demoralizing
place to be in and I’ve been there so
many times in my life
when you know I wanted to make a
significant change
and I just wasn’t able to
when I uh when I had my when when I was
living in my alcoholism I
this was a frequent thing in my life
that I had these impulses these these
these desires after something of course
after something bad had happened
um that I would want to get sober or I
would have the Instinct that I need to
get sober
and I
would do okay for a while but maybe for
a few days for a few weeks but
ultimately I would always relapse and I
would go back into my old unhealthy
habits and then feel that demoralization
never being able to feel like I was able
to get sober
and I know for many people who struggle
with that disease
that’s what they feel is there’s a lot
of hopelessness there that they that
they don’t feel like there’s a way out
that that the that sobriety is really
for somebody else and not for them
nothing could be farther from the truth
by the way because if I can get sober
than anybody can
uh but uh uh but but ultimately that’s
the way we feel and we internalize it
and that’s a big big issue and the same
is true for for other desires that may
not be you know may not be addiction
related may not be mental health related
but may just be with regard to some of
the desires we have like having a better
career or or starting the business we
might want to start uh oftentimes when
things get things get hard
we fail to maintain the momentum and we
go back into our old habits
but here’s the thing that that despite
the things that are outside of our
control
that we can’t control we have to first
acknowledge what we can’t control and be
okay with that
I mean that that just has to be okay
because if we’re going to keep beating
our heads against the things that we
can’t control and obsess about that
well then we’re not going to make any
Headway
but if we can obsessively focus on the
things that are in our control
and
form the right set of circumstances
because with the right set of
circumstances that are within our
control
we can change the trajectory of Our
Lives
as long as we’re focused on the things
we can’t control
and flowing with the things that are
outside of our control
we can change the trajectory of our
lives and there are three things that
are the most important in my opinion
that serve as a foundation to help make
that happen
the first of which is willingness
now this may sound crazy
but a lot of times when when some of us
think that we want something
uh we’re actually not willing
to do the work to get it
this I know it sounds crazy but how I
mean how could I want something and not
be willing to go after it well the
reality is is you know there’s
there’s a lot of us who you know want to
make a million dollars but we don’t want
to put in the type of work it takes to
get there
we don’t want to reach out to people we
don’t want to try to add value in
certain ways or we don’t want to we
don’t want to do this but or that
um the willingness just isn’t there
and this was something I had to come to
terms to in my attempts with sobriety
was that early on I want while I wanted
to be sober I wasn’t willing to do what
it took to get it
um and and that was the biggest thing it
wasn’t because I couldn’t
I’m really digging deep really digging
deep within my soul when I finally got
sober when I finally started doing the
work I realized that it was a
willingness issue
and that willingness issue really
revolved around fear
I was afraid to reach out
to a to find a sponsor I was afraid to
lean into the community
because what if I fail
and I was constantly trying to please
people what if I failed and these people
judged me
the fear of never being able to drink
again weighed so heavily on me that uh
um that that that was a a
that affected my willingness to go there
that fear affected my willingness
so the way to that we have to rise above
that is again is to
is to accept those things that are
outside of our control and focus on the
present in that particular occurrence if
we’re afraid of having the willingness
to take those first steps
then recognizing that it is one step at
a time and breaking it down in that is a
really powerful way to to gain that
willingness
even if you’re instead of saying well I
have to constantly be willing over the
next you know over this lifetime or
however long it is
um that you would have to do that
um instead say can I just be willing
right now in this moment
right now one step at a time
and acknowledge imperfection that’s okay
because it’s not about perfection it’s
about progress
and so taking one step at a time and
just recognize I’m willing right now
and knowing what that takes that’s how
we get over the fear because again
willingness is absolutely related to
fear and our ability to move Beyond it
not get over it we don’t get over fear
but we can actually rise above it and be
willing in the moment
and the second thing that you need so so
that’s the first thing that you need to
transform your life is willingness to
actually do it dig deep are you really
willing to transform your life in a
positive way it’s just again it’s not
just with healing it’s also with
empowerment are you truly willing to
change your health and fitness are you
truly willing to transform your
financial Outlook are you truly willing
to transform your career
and that that’s that’s what you need
that doesn’t mean doing it for someone
else it doesn’t mean doing it for family
it doesn’t mean doing it for the person
that you love it means doing it for you
you have to be willing you have to want
it more than anything else in the world
and that’s just the the fact and the
truth of it
and the second part the second thing
that you need to transform your life
when you have the willingness is the
Leverage
now leverage does not mean money
it’s not financial leverage you don’t
need financial leverage to transform
your life it’s all up here
what kind of mental leverage can you
give yourself and to to uh to make that
dramatic change in your life that you
want and a lot of times that leverage
comes from uh from having a big enough
desire
that is stronger than your uh than the
fear that is fighting it that you’re
fighting against it that’s what we talk
about when we’re Rising above fear that
you have to have a desire that is
stronger than uh that initial fear is it
so it has to have a powerful meaning it
has to be aligned with your core values
is that desire there
and there’s another part of Leverage
that that um that Tony Robbins talks
about a lot he talks about pain and
pleasure there’s leverage on both sides
of those but but we can get leverage
from both pain and pleasure where is not
transforming your life causing you
tremendous amounts of pain and where is
that pain so unbearable that you must
make that change in your life that you
must transform your life to change it
if if it’s something that’s that’s
hurting you or hurting your health can
you acknowledge that pain and and and
make it strong enough that you want to
change your life that you make that
transformation
and even more important than that
is there’s so much pleasure on the other
side of that transformation that it is
driving you
toward must again making that change
um that’s that’s the bigger one I’ve
heard in a number of these interviews
that I’ve had with people
um especially one with that I’ve
recently had with Jamie Gruber uh that
that when we’re making a change in our
lives it’s better to be running towards
something than away from something
because when we’re running away from
something there’s a lot of fear involved
there we’re fighting we’re fleeing from
it and again remember when we fight and
flee fear we don’t win
but when we rise above it when we can
embrace it when we can embrace it as a
signal for growth we can look at the
things that we want and run towards the
things that we desire
one of the ways in which we could do
this is through a visualization practice
through a morning ritual that that
allows you to visualize the life that
you want with such intense detail that
you can uh that that that it becomes a
part of who you are and it’s amazing the
the neural Pathways and and Dr Alice
Penn talked about this on my show is
that when you can visualize your future
identity with such intense detail it
actually changes the the the the the
neural Pathways in your mind that you
realize what’s possible and if you can
consistently do that on a daily basis of
of visualizing the life that you want in
your morning meditation visualizing the
colors the smells the the the the the
the atmosphere the sounds of what that
achievement looks like
that gives you the pleasure enough to
start really chasing it if you do that
in the morning and the evening in the
evening if you do it before bedtime it
becomes a part of what’s what’s a piece
together while you sleep if you do it in
the morning it shapes the course of your
day
that’s the first step towards towards
getting the leverage to actually make
those changes in your life so again how
are you making uh not changing not
transforming painful enough for you and
how are you making the pleasure which is
the most important part the end result
so uh so pleasurable so uh empowering
for you that you must make that change
the final piece is something that you
will probably be able to tell me because
I’ve said it so many times and we’ve
heard it so many times on this show uh
the third thing that you need to
transform your life is a community
and that again whether it’s healing or
empowerment or or changing your Fitness
now it is a community that can help you
succeed in that and stay consistent
that Community can help you to get sober
that’s how that’s how I got sobered I
found people who had what I wanted which
was sobriety
it I found a community of people that
were working toward the same goal every
day as I was and uh and that helped me
to stay sober Community can also help
you to reach your goals to reach your
empowering goals whether it be a fitness
goal or a um or a a a financial goal
Community can help you with that
and Community as as I’ve mentioned in
previous weeks involves a couple of
things it involves either a mentor
either or both of these things a mentor
somebody who has what you want and who’s
willing to show you how to get there and
uh and it’s important that you find the
right mentor and somebody who’s willing
to work with you and many people who
have achieved things I know this gets
scary for a lot of people because they
don’t want to find a mentor but what
people understand when they’ve truly
become successful is that when they’ve
become successful or when they’ve
achieved something that that that that
the best way for them to gain
fulfillment
is to give it away and to share it with
others
this is true in sobriety because one of
the things that helps keep people sober
is when they’re helping other people to
stay sober there’s a selfish thing in
that this is true of mentorship too is
when you’re building other people up
they can do the things that you’re doing
you’re building up a community around
you you’re reinforcing what you’re doing
well so remember if you’re finding the
right Mentor mentors want to help
and that may mean you have to pay for
them it may mean you have to pay for a
coach
um but uh but oftentimes it may mean you
just find the right friend or person
that that has been there before and
they’re willing to help you through it
and it’s important that as they’re
helping you through it that you’re
adding value in return what can you do
for them
either financially or or in some other
way
um
that’s how you can that’s how you can
build on that and the other part of
community is that you’re you’re aligned
with people that are also working toward
the same goals it’s like a cohort of
people a group of people that are
working toward the same thing you are if
it’s whether it be in in business or in
fitness and health or even you know or
even sobriety there’s those two elements
there is mentorship and a cohort of
people working toward the same thing but
the common theme there is that they hold
that that there’s accountability that
everybody’s holding one another
accountable in that group and that you
are working toward a common goal
um and those are really the three things
that can help you to uh the three things
that you need in your life that will
Empower you to transform your life again
it’s not an exhaustive thing and and
it’s it’s this is just my opinion and
experience through this this is not
medical advice
um so if you are struggling with
something significant please please get
help get help uh lean into that
Community aspect first uh but if you do
this if you can employ these processes
employ these three things uh you truly
can transform your life and I believe
that is possible for everybody and you
can become the person you want to be
with a compelling enough dream to make
that happen
thank you so much for joining me today I
appreciate you joining me on uh well
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