Stepping Into Your Zone of Genius With Niomi Hurley -

Everybody talks about overcoming or getting over your fears, or not letting fear stand in your way. But the reality is, it’s always with us. And if we’re waiting for that time when fear won’t be there anymore, then we will be waiting forever. Where a lot of people get stuck, is they don’t realize fear is there for them. But once you’re able to embrace fear and use it for your growth, you begin to step into your zone of genius. In this conversation, Niomi Hurley, founder of Get Up and Grow Consulting, shares her wisdom around flowing over fear so you can finally step into your zone of genius.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

Why fear is healthy
Zone of excellence vs. zone of genius
Rising above the fear of being disliked
Dealing with your emotions through Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT)
Getting into your zone of genius as a leader
The recipe for success behind Niomi’s events
Embracing growth in a place of discomfort
About her Dealing with Difficult People course

Episode Highlights:

[05:15] What It’s Like to Take a Leap

Taking the leap can be uncomfortable, especially when you don’t have that security of income or when you’re still trying to find that sense of purpose. And when you’re able to embrace that vulnerability and acknowledge that, there’s a sense of relatability with the people you serve. Because we’re all positioned to serve the people that we once were or we are. Once you’re in your zone of genius, you just feel different and you will be feeling joy every time.

[08:18] Why Fear is Healthy

Back in the primitive days, fear was what protected people from threats. And a little bit of fear is actually helpful for us now, and it’s healthy to feel that. It gets the body pumping. It gets everything going and inspires you to go forward. Stepping into the unknown is probably the biggest fear. But you have to trust in your capabilities and your zone of genius. Trust that you’re making a decision from your head, your body, and your heart. If it feels right, then that’s what you need to do.

[09:23] How to Step Into Your Zone of Genius

Your zone of excellence comes when you’re in a space where you’re capable, but it doesn’t light the fire in your belly. But stepping into your zone of genius means that when you’re doing whatever you’re doing, you’ve constantly got a smile on your face because that’s where you’re meant to be. Your zone of genius is what lights your fire and that’s what you should be searching for. The step from the zone of excellence to the zone of genius is filled with uncertainty, unknowing, and that fear element, all of those sorts of things, because you’re in this comfortable space where everything’s familiar.

[17:35] How to Deal with Your Emotions

Through Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) , you go back into the subconscious and look at the things that are holding you back. When something holds us back and threatens our identity or our safety, we automatically come from a place of fear, frustration, or sadness. The emotion just comes out and once we identify it, we can move on. When you go in through the hypnotic state, you can address that and reshift it into the cognition of the adult you are, and then process it a lot more effectively.

Resources Mentioned:

www.getupandgrowconsulting.com.au

www.adamcliffordhill.com/coaching

Transcript

[adam_hill]: hello everyone and thank you for joining
us i have a great guest today her
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[adam_hill]: name is naomi higgs and she is
joining us from western australia so she’s about
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[adam_hill]: a day ahead so she can see
future so how is the future is everything
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[adam_hill]: bright down there
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[niomi_hurley]: yeats brad yeah
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[adam_hill]: okay good good good to hear that
we have we have bright things ahead well
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[adam_hill]: naomi is an organizational psychologist and clinical
hypnotherapist she spent many years in the corporate
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[adam_hill]: world working in h r and safe
management roles before completing a degree in psychology
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[adam_hill]: and getting a diploma level qualifications in
leadership and management her passion for personal growth
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[adam_hill]: and the power of subconscious mind then
saw her continue her learning journey to become
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[adam_hill]: a clinical hypnotherapist at this point she
took a leap to leave her corporate day
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[adam_hill]: job to rise above that fear to
get into that just start her own business
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[adam_hill]: get up and grow consulting and it
takes a lot of courage to take that
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[adam_hill]: leap and to take that leap of
faith on yourself naomi’s mission she is a
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[adam_hill]: woman on a mission and her mission
to spark curiosity awareness and growth in business
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[adam_hill]: and individuals that empowers them to move
towards self actualization and achieve more than they
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[adam_hill]: believed was previously possible a little to
them she helps businesses and individuals to connect
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[adam_hill]: better to themselves and their individual capabilities
igniting their energy and creating lasting beneficial change
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[adam_hill]: naomi has a une approach to organizational
psychology mind set growth and healing that helps
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[adam_hill]: us helps improve areas within people’s lives
or business she runs get up and grow
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[adam_hill]: consulting which provide so a full range
of organizational psychology strategies h r culture safety
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[adam_hill]: change management that list goes on and
on i’m so glad you’ve joined us today
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[adam_hill]: and i ome it’s great to have
you here think
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[niomi_hurley]: it’s wonderful to be here adam thank
you for the opportunity it’s always great catching
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[niomi_hurley]: up with you and working with you
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[adam_hill]: absolutely well we’ve we’ve been on we’ve
been on multiple sides of the camera many
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[adam_hill]: times and and and from you know
it’s it’s an amazing piece of technology where
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[adam_hill]: we can actually see other from opposite
ends of the world and share this time
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[adam_hill]: together many many times though we’ve never
met in person i hope to remedy that
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[adam_hill]: one day
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[niomi_hurley]: yes
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[adam_hill]: but but the first time that we
met was was actually a ver well tony
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[adam_hill]: robins event even in the midst of
covid we were both a business mastery we
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[adam_hill]: both shared a team we were on
the same team there where we you know
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[adam_hill]: set up a charitable foundation and we
were able to raise some funds for some
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[adam_hill]: worthy causes but the key thing was
i remember at that point that you were
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[adam_hill]: still you know employed you were still
working for the corporate in the corporate world
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[adam_hill]: and i remember at that time you
know we got to know each other pretty
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[adam_hill]: well you are you were dreaming up
this idea of get up and grow consulting
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[adam_hill]: that would you know that you wanted
to start that you wanted to help people
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[adam_hill]: in a certain way and as i
mentioned before it takes a lot of courage
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[adam_hill]: to make that leap so can you
can you give us a little back story
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[adam_hill]: on how how your how your career
shaped you and and how and how you
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[adam_hill]: grew up how how your career shaped
you and how you got into consulting
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah so you might have seen i
actually still breathe in when i think of
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[niomi_hurley]: that because it was it’s something you
feel through your whole body when you make
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[niomi_hurley]: decisions like that and
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[niomi_hurley]: i i had established a really successful
career in the corporate world i was he
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[niomi_hurley]: and safety manager for quite a large
transport company i established credibility with all of
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[niomi_hurley]: the clients within the company was leading
a really two really great teams i hate
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[niomi_hurley]: your own safety
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[niomi_hurley]: and had even recruited them with limited
skills but for their personality you know for
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[niomi_hurley]: their attributes and their value so i’ve
actually been able to help mentor them and
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[niomi_hurley]: get them into a place where they
were performing really well and it just kind
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[niomi_hurley]: of came to me and said now
you could do this on a grander scale
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[niomi_hurley]: it’s something you know you talk about
being in a state of excellence and in
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[niomi_hurley]: that zone
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[niomi_hurley]: of excellence and i was there i
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[adam_hill]: yeah
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[niomi_hurley]: was really good at what i did
and i was now on right
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[adam_hill]: it
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[niomi_hurley]: but helping people and growing people
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[adam_hill]: oh
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[niomi_hurley]: sort of was a level
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[adam_hill]: yeah
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[niomi_hurley]: up into my zona genius and
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: when you’re in your zona genius you
just feel different you know you’re feeling joy
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[niomi_hurley]: every time it’s not like you’re working
your there
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[adam_hill]: right
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[niomi_hurley]: so i thought
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[adam_hill]: oh
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[niomi_hurley]: i really needed to do that for
myself and then also flow on to my
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[niomi_hurley]: family and my friends and all of
my other relationships and the people that i
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[niomi_hurley]: help and although it was a really
big leap i feel like would have been
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[niomi_hurley]: doing a disservice to my purpose of
being here if i didn’t do it o
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[adam_hill]: sure
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[niomi_hurley]: programs like business mastery and unleashed the
power within another training i did really prepared
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[niomi_hurley]: me for that and gave me you
know that ability to step into the fear
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[niomi_hurley]: because i wasn’t overcoming it it’s every
even in a
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[niomi_hurley]: business
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[niomi_hurley]: when you’re running a business whether it’s
large or small there’s fear all along the
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[niomi_hurley]: way right you’re always experiencing it but
it’s actually being able to step into it
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[niomi_hurley]: and kind of embrace it
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[adam_hill]: well i’m glad you say that because
that’s something we try to focus on here
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[adam_hill]: is that you never overcome fear and
everybody talks about you know that’s the goal
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[adam_hill]: overcoming fear or you know getting getting
over your fears or don’t let fear stand
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[adam_hill]: in your way but but the reality
is it’s always with us and if we’re
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[adam_hill]: waiting for that time where fear is
going to not be there any more then
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[adam_hill]: we’re going to be waiting forever and
i think that’s where a lot of people
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[adam_hill]: get stuck as they don’t realize that
the fear is fear is there for them
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[adam_hill]: so fear was there with you when
you made
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[adam_hill]: that that leap but you you leaped
anyway you went anyway and how was that
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[adam_hill]: how how was that did that uh
you know did the fear change at all
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[adam_hill]: did you did you experience it in
a different way
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah i think if one word to
say how that was was uncomfortable if i’m
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[niomi_hurley]: being honest like just being
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[adam_hill]: sure
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[niomi_hurley]: in this uncomfortable
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[adam_hill]: uh
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[niomi_hurley]: space not having the security
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[adam_hill]: ah
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[niomi_hurley]: of an income for starters you also
that sense of purpose like here i was
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[niomi_hurley]: knowing for what i did and now
i just work so no one to say
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[niomi_hurley]: you’ve done a great job you’re
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[niomi_hurley]: so it was really uncomfortable
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[adam_hill]: right
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[niomi_hurley]: but part of the joy that i’ve
received from it is moving through that because
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[niomi_hurley]: that’s just showing
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[niomi_hurley]: am and how much capability i have
so it every day along this journey and
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[niomi_hurley]: i was speaking with some other business
owners in a group where i yesterday actually
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[niomi_hurley]: but it’s actually that part that actually
then also gives us what we need to
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[niomi_hurley]: serve our clients because we have a
better understanding of them we’re not know some
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[niomi_hurley]: of our clients might see us especially
when we’re on the high level of what
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[niomi_hurley]: we’re doing and
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[niomi_hurley]: there a god or you know how
do they do this but
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[adam_hill]: yeah
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[niomi_hurley]: we do it just like everyone else
we come in
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[niomi_hurley]: and we
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[adam_hill]: so
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[niomi_hurley]: sorry
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[adam_hill]: so the clients being able to see
us on our level that’s
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[niomi_hurley]: yes
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[adam_hill]: i love that because yeah that that’s
powerful because they that that gives it a
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[adam_hill]: sense of of you know relatability and
that’s what we want to serve i’ve heard
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[adam_hill]: before that we’re we’re all positioned to
serve the people that we once were or
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[adam_hill]: that we are
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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[adam_hill]: and so serving those people that that’s
an excellent way of putting it
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah yeah and i think when you
when
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[adam_hill]: yeah
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[niomi_hurley]: you come into that space i mean
acknowledging that fear is helpful fear is there
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[niomi_hurley]: to help us it
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: was to help us in our primitive
days of identifying threats and then engaging in
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[niomi_hurley]: them and a little bit of fear
is actually help helpful for us now and
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[niomi_hurley]: it’s health to feel that it gets
the body pumping it gets everything going and
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[niomi_hurley]: inspires you to go forward but it’s
actually
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[niomi_hurley]: letting yourself be overcome by that fear
that’s when it becomes unhelpful that’s when
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[adam_hill]: yeah
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[niomi_hurley]: there’s so many people out there with
strategies to help you actually just give you
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[niomi_hurley]: enough of that boost to go right
i’m going to step into the unknown because
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[niomi_hurley]: let’s face it that’s probably the biggest
fear and just trust that you know if
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[niomi_hurley]: i made this decision from my head
and my body and my heart and it
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[niomi_hurley]: feels right then that’s what i need
to do
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[adam_hill]: it’s having that trust in yourself and
having your trust in your capabilities in that
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[adam_hill]: zone of genius and the zone of
excellence as you say and i really that
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[adam_hill]: that stuck out to me how do
you how do you find how does how
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[adam_hill]: how did you find your zone of
excellence and how how do you think others
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[adam_hill]: would find their zone of excellence and
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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[adam_hill]: how could they apply it to their
own lives
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[niomi_hurley]: well i think a one zone of
excellence comes when your inner space where you’re
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[niomi_hurley]: really capable but the downside to the
zone of
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[niomi_hurley]: excellence is
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[niomi_hurley]: it doesn’t actually light the fire in
your belly now at some time it did
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[niomi_hurley]: because that’s what drove you to get
into there and so for me safety in
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[niomi_hurley]: h r was always a passion of
mine and helping people
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[niomi_hurley]: i was doing major investigations for track
and trail or roll over and i was
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[niomi_hurley]: really good out was presenting to clients
really good at it i got to a
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[niomi_hurley]: stepping into the zone of genius means
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because that’s where
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[adam_hill]: m i got you so there’s a
distinction between that zone of excellence and the
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[adam_hill]: zone of genius the zone of excellence
is almost like you’ve reached where you you’ve
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[adam_hill]: reached the point at which you’re bored
or our you’re doing something that that you
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[adam_hill]: know you’ve your max your max capabilities
or where your our max allowance but your
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[adam_hill]: your zone of genius is where that’s
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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[adam_hill]: right
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[niomi_hurley]: that’s what yeah that’s what
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[niomi_hurley]: i believe and i think it’s the
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uncertainty and knowing that fear element all of
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[niomi_hurley]: those sorts of things because you’re in
this mfortable space right everything is familiar someone
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: problem i’ve solved it whereas zona genius
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: because even if you fall over the
scrape eneas learning for the next time right
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but it’s trusting
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[adam_hill]: right
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[adam_hill]: it sounds like which interesting there is
that it sounds like fear lives in the
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[adam_hill]: zone of genius but you know fear
might fear is almost absent in the zone
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[adam_hill]: of excellent maybe not absent but different
because there’s an element of well there’s no
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[adam_hill]: zone of genius
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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[adam_hill]: so that’s
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[adam_hill]: that’s really really interesting i’d love to
hear how how you get into the zone
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[adam_hill]: of genius how other people could get
into that zone out of that excellence
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[niomi_hurley]: i think what i needed to do
was i need to shift my thinking i
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: and you know i was raised to
go get a job go and build a
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[niomi_hurley]: house you know all of those things
that created structure and security and certainty in
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[niomi_hurley]: subconscious level and then when you get
to that state of genius and most of
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[niomi_hurley]: my clients on the individual side of
things in that state of excellence they’re there
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[niomi_hurley]: they’re doing really well but something is
missing they’re
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: not going home for field or they’re
going home exhausted from their day because they
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[niomi_hurley]: had to put too much energy in
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[niomi_hurley]: out how they can actually shift whatever
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[adam_hill]: yeah and that’s i think that’s something
that a lot of people run into nowadays
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[adam_hill]: especially high achievers is as they work
for the job they work for the pay
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[adam_hill]: check and you know it’s very similar
to your store where you know they get
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[adam_hill]: they get the recognition they get that
they get to that point where they’re the
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[adam_hill]: ones that are called for all of
those problems and then it just becomes where’s
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[adam_hill]: the fulfillment you know that
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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[adam_hill]: they reach that but the realities i
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[adam_hill]: we don’t actually participate it because we’re
looking for that title we’re looking for that
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[adam_hill]: paycheck but then all of a sudden
you know we reach it and we’re like
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[adam_hill]: well what’s next growth is the joys
in the journey you
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[adam_hill]: know so so so i love that
you make that distinction yeah
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[niomi_hurley]: and i think that is definitely that’s
the key phrase i might actually borrow that
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[niomi_hurley]: but the joy is in the journey
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: the fear and falling over i usually
say to my clients when they are in
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[niomi_hurley]: that state of fargo you can list
off all the things that could happen why
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[niomi_hurley]: is their fear there
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[niomi_hurley]: one of my clients i was speaking
to wanted to launch a new business online
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[niomi_hurley]: and they were saying to me there’s
going to be people that don’t like my
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[niomi_hurley]: work i just looked him straight in
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[niomi_hurley]: was just accepting that yes all those
things can happen but if they do happen
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[niomi_hurley]: then what’s the worst you already know
that there’s going to be people that don’t
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[niomi_hurley]: like it they’re not your ideal client
you move past them you already know that
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[niomi_hurley]: you might make typos in your socials
post people know you’re real there’s
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: authenticity know so it doesn’t matter what
our brain can create it’s really not when
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the consequences of it aren’t usually deathtifying unless
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[niomi_hurley]: you’re doing something really extreme obviously but
you know in our
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah and i think that’s another fear
that comes up from that is that i
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[niomi_hurley]: find especially in the leaders is the
fear of being disliked because
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[niomi_hurley]: this we need to be part of
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[niomi_hurley]: wired subconsciously primary we needed to be
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[adam_hill]: right
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[niomi_hurley]: in a position where someone doesn’t like
us that threatens our ability to be part
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[niomi_hurley]: of the tribe to hunt eat be
looked after you know be protected from creditors
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[niomi_hurley]: so in this day and age though
when we re frame that you know there’s
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on i’m shopping now she doesn’t need to
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and she survives so it’s just trying to
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[adam_hill]: oh
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[niomi_hurley]: some of that subconscious programming
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[adam_hill]: sure yeah and it’s i can definitely
relate to that fear of being disliked i
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[adam_hill]: mean i still struggle with that to
this day mean i just don’t and it’s
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[adam_hill]: amazing what the brain does i mean
yes course we’re afraid of things that you
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[adam_hill]: know might kill us but the idea
of of oh man you know you mentioned
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[adam_hill]: the grammatical errors on social media’s like
i get so afraid to post something because
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[adam_hill]: man did i use the right version
your in that or the
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[niomi_hurley]: ah
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[adam_hill]: right version of their somebody’s going to
skewer me for it really what’s the end
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[adam_hill]: of the world is at the end
of the world but yeah you’re right it’s
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[adam_hill]: it’s like we do want to be
part of a tribe it’s that natural tendency
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[adam_hill]: but but man it’s like we want
that tribe to be everybody you know
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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[adam_hill]: we don’t want to exclude and so
we’re afraid that by losing one person we
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[adam_hill]: lose everybody but it seems like the
reality is that if we lose you know
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[adam_hill]: if we if we if we if
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[adam_hill]: maybe exclude the wrong people then you
know we can be much happier
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah and we can serve at a
higher level you know and i feel because
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: ifted out of that space the fear
isn’t driving us any more and we’re pushing
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[niomi_hurley]: through that and so when we serve
we’re coming from that place authenticity we’ve got
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[niomi_hurley]: you know one of the issues that
comes up i see with leaders sometimes with
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[niomi_hurley]: performance management discussions right everyone sees performance
management as a
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[niomi_hurley]: negative they know i’m in trouble but
really it should be seen is how can
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[niomi_hurley]: you serve your people how can you
help them grow how can you help them
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[niomi_hurley]: develop but having those conversations because there’s
that fear of being disliked people tend to
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: you know when when we’re speaking with
people if someone comes at you and talks
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[niomi_hurley]: of emotion it’s kind of like how
a horse consents you know straight away
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[adam_hill]: right
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[niomi_hurley]: and and that can become quite triggering
and then the converse tin is just about
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[niomi_hurley]: each person’s emotions coming through and trying
to have a win whereas when you can
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[niomi_hurley]: be comfortable in that space or comfortable
in the uncomfortable and sit there and actually
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[niomi_hurley]: say well what’s my purpose here my
purpose is to help this isn’t for me
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[niomi_hurley]: strip that emotion away then the conversation
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[niomi_hurley]: further and it’s a different space to
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[adam_hill]: okay yeah so and how do you
because i know the dealing with emotion is
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[adam_hill]: always very difficult but how how do
you deal with that emotion and and take
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of just getting through that emotion and getting
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[niomi_hurley]: so i this is probably one of
the basises of the hypnotherapy work i do
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[niomi_hurley]: is a method called rapid
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i’m a recipe here in the k and
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[niomi_hurley]: it’s just phenomenal it’s absolutely amazing so
what we do is we go back into
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[niomi_hurley]: the subconscious and we go okay there’s
this you know thing holding you back here
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[niomi_hurley]: so when something holds us and it
threatens our identity or our safety we automatically
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[niomi_hurley]: come from a place of fear or
frustration or sadness okay so emotion just comes
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[niomi_hurley]: out so we go back and we
okay
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: why was that established in the subconscious
why is that actually there in the first
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[niomi_hurley]: place and then once we identify it
we can move it on and the thing
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[niomi_hurley]: about the subconscious that some people may
or may not realize is when it actually
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[niomi_hurley]: is programme so say something happens to
me at the age of four and it’s
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[niomi_hurley]: reinforced over ten eleven twelve my subconscious
mind grabs it at the age of four
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[niomi_hurley]: and at that cognition of a four
year old stores it in that
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[adam_hill]: oh
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[niomi_hurley]: if you don’t do this you won’t
be safe and when you go
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[adam_hill]: m
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re shift it into the cognition of the
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[niomi_hurley]: adult you are and then you can
actually process it a lot more effectively
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[adam_hill]: i see so it is it is
a reprogramming and it’s reprogramming at the subconscious
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[adam_hill]: level
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[adam_hill]: that’s interesting yeah so so then and
i know a lot of people you know
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[adam_hill]: when when they hear that you know
when they hear hypnosis they’re thinking oh okay
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[adam_hill]: here we go some kind of you
know like you know in the pin this
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[adam_hill]: guy kind of thing of course but
but there is science behind that i mean
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[adam_hill]: that programming at the subconscious level i
mean that is that is scientific and and
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[adam_hill]: and it is how we really develop
our paradymesare beliefs are fears everything in there
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[adam_hill]: and so re programming it that at
that level safe and secure environment is a
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[adam_hill]: huge way to overcome that and you’ve
had a lot of success with that kind
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[adam_hill]: of therapy
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah yeah a lot of success and
and just going back to that point that
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[niomi_hurley]: you were saying about it being now
seen sometimes to be
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[adam_hill]: a
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[niomi_hurley]: a bit i know when i first
started on this journey i used
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: to i’ll take you in a meditie
state people accepted that more and so part
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[niomi_hurley]: of my journey over since i started
my business was actually coming through and being
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[niomi_hurley]: more authentic and going i don’t care
if people dislike me because i do hypnosis
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[niomi_hurley]: right or judge me because this is
who i am and so when you go
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[niomi_hurley]: into those places it’s it’s just going
in and like you say re program in
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[niomi_hurley]: the brain and if you look at
not
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: just the science but also the practical
application you know so many sports teams sports
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[niomi_hurley]: stars high performance executives so they all
use hypnosis to get them into the right
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[niomi_hurley]: state before they go in and go
to perform because it can increase your performance
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[niomi_hurley]: as well you know with how you’re
thinking and how your brain controls the rest
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[niomi_hurley]: of body and your emotions
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[adam_hill]: yeah i certainly i certainly believe that
i’m i’m a huge advocate for that kind
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[adam_hill]: of stuff i mean especially within the
realm of you know not just mental health
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[adam_hill]: but continuing to effectively being a good
leader i mean it’s it’s it’s something that’s
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[adam_hill]: powerful that really hasn’t been explored there’s
an you know not to go off on
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[adam_hill]: too much of a tangent but you
know within the world of mental health there’s
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[adam_hill]: there’s so much within the medical industry
that’s
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[niomi_hurley]: oh
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[adam_hill]: that’s limited you know
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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[adam_hill]: we’re starting to open up these things
now which is exciting hypnosis you know psychic
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[adam_hill]: lic you know psychodelictreatments those kinds of
things it’s it’s powerful and i love seeing
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[adam_hill]: what what these can do and i
wish more leaders would embro those kinds of
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[adam_hill]: ideas so i think that you’re doing
some great work there and so kind of
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[adam_hill]: getting into that subconscious subconscious area of
fear is there anything you know short of
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[adam_hill]: hypnosis is there is there anything that
we can do when we’re leading and when
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[adam_hill]: we when we’re faced with those kinds
of fears fears of pleasing people or anything
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[adam_hill]: like that that we can do to
try and get past that you know to
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[adam_hill]: really push beyond our own limits
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah so the people that i work
with and i do the hypnosis as well
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[niomi_hurley]: in the corporate space as well in
groups which is just really super powerful to
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[adam_hill]: m
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[niomi_hurley]: try and shift that with individual clients
and with corporate client the three key things
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[niomi_hurley]: that come up is whatever has presented
in their subconscious has made them feel unsafe
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[niomi_hurley]: has made them feel unloved it made
them feel unworthy and fear is just
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: coming up and it’s reminding us of
one or a combination of those things whenever
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[niomi_hurley]: we’re facing something so when i went
to go and start my own business it
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[niomi_hurley]: was if you call yourself a hyphypnotherapist
you’ll be unloved you’re unworthy
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[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: of being able to do something you
love and make bulk amount of money right
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[niomi_hurley]: you know
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[adam_hill]: right
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[niomi_hurley]: you’ll be alone because people won’t be
with you and
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[adam_hill]: oh
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[niomi_hurley]: so on that subconscious level it’s being
i would sometimes consciously tell you so if
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[niomi_hurley]: you know i am safe this is
what i was saying before re framing what
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[niomi_hurley]: is the worst that can happen and
you
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[adam_hill]: h
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[niomi_hurley]: you
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[adam_hill]: m
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[niomi_hurley]: are worthy to
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[adam_hill]: oh
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[niomi_hurley]: be given an opportunity and that opportunity
be in front of you you’re worthy of
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[niomi_hurley]: it it wouldn’t be there so to
sort of push in and just move into
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[niomi_hurley]: that space and give it a shot
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[adam_hill]: so just yeah so really it’s a
it’s an empowerment mode of of convincing yourself
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[adam_hill]: you’re were the year enough and and
knowing that that you are i mean that
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[adam_hill]: that that is a challenge for a
lot of leaders to to really address that
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00:22:46,585 –> 00:22:51,573
[adam_hill]: impostor syndrome and i’ve you know heard
that on on most of the interviews i’ve
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00:22:51,613 –> 00:22:55,640
[adam_hill]: done thus far is that idea that
once we get into this point we feel
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[adam_hill]: like we’re impostors is one of our
bigger fears because hugh edwards who i had
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[adam_hill]: in the podcast recently had said this
that that and it was actually very freeing
449
00:23:06,799 –> 00:23:10,966
[adam_hill]: when when when he said this and
i’m going to steal it but he said
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[adam_hill]: that you know we when when we’re
feeling that what really happens is we’re recognizing
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[adam_hill]: that you know really no nobody you
know we’re all winging it you know we
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[adam_hill]: all
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[niomi_hurley]: ah
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[adam_hill]: we’re all kind of winging it nobody
really knows exactly there’s no manuals to this
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[adam_hill]: leadership thing and so if if we’re
in our zone of excellence clearly there’s there’s
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[adam_hill]: this point where you know we’re not
pushing hard enough because we need to be
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[adam_hill]: in that impostor rome in order to
if we’re not feeling that maybe we’re in
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[adam_hill]: that zone of excellence i mean does
that does that resonate does that make sense
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[niomi_hurley]: definitely and and i talk of into
about impostors in german you know if you’re
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[niomi_hurley]: in a room you’re in a board
room or a meeting room at a sporting
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00:23:55,108 –> 00:23:59,254
[niomi_hurley]: club wherever you are and you’re in
that room you feel like you’re not worthy
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[niomi_hurley]: to be there you know and what
if i make a mistake i’ll be
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[adam_hill]: h
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[niomi_hurley]: be
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[adam_hill]: m
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00:24:02,620 –> 00:24:06,366
[niomi_hurley]: discovered that i’m not perfect you know
because there’s a lot of perfection is around
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[niomi_hurley]: impostor sindri as well and a lot
of achieve
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[adam_hill]: hm
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00:24:09,792 –> 00:24:14,179
[niomi_hurley]: experience that because they want everything to
be right on point but when you’re in
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00:24:14,219 –> 00:24:17,926
[niomi_hurley]: the room and you look around you
can probably talk to this out of it
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00:24:18,486 –> 00:24:21,653
[niomi_hurley]: there’s at least one person in the
room that you look at going head do
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00:24:21,733 –> 00:24:23,672
[niomi_hurley]: we get here how did
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[adam_hill]: uh
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[niomi_hurley]: you get in this room right
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[adam_hill]: h
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[niomi_hurley]: they don’t have really
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[adam_hill]: right
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[niomi_hurley]: a lot to bring what they say
doesn’t fit but everyone still nods they might
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[niomi_hurley]: not have the skills or the experience
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[adam_hill]: ah
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00:24:32,727 –> 00:24:36,797
[niomi_hurley]: but they’re there and the whole difference
between why they’re there and why you’re feeling
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00:24:36,858 –> 00:24:41,262
[niomi_hurley]: like you shouldn’t be there pretty much
as they believe they should be the only
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00:24:41,342 –> 00:24:42,003
[niomi_hurley]: reason they’re there
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00:24:42,032 –> 00:24:42,112
[adam_hill]: hm
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00:24:42,624 –> 00:24:43,825
[niomi_hurley]: because of their capabilities
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00:24:43,500 –> 00:24:44,160
[adam_hill]: yeah
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[niomi_hurley]: because they’re obviously not is just purely
they believe that they should be and so
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[niomi_hurley]: they sit there quite confidently
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00:24:51,611 –> 00:24:55,658
[adam_hill]: i find that very therapeutic often to
look at those folks and and say okay
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00:24:55,698 –> 00:24:58,462
[adam_hill]: if they can be here clearly i
could be here
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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[adam_hill]: because yeah i’ve definitely experienced that and
and and to the point i mean yeah
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00:25:05,113 –> 00:25:09,060
[adam_hill]: i think you’re right that confidence plays
such a big role of confidence and persistence
494
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[adam_hill]: are highly underrated skills in this world
today and to
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[niomi_hurley]: m
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00:25:13,267 –> 00:25:19,658
[adam_hill]: that end you know give into that
impostor syndrome letting that guide our decisions is
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[adam_hill]: probably one of the most tragic things
that happens in our society because
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00:25:23,592 –> 00:25:23,754
[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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00:25:24,165 –> 00:25:29,858
[adam_hill]: how many great ideas have gone on
fulfilled because somebody just thought you know i’m
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[adam_hill]: not the right one to do this
but i’m not the right person for this
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00:25:34,172 –> 00:25:34,316
[niomi_hurley]: yep
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[adam_hill]: man it’s so i wonder and and
but for for you you you did that
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00:25:40,029 –> 00:25:45,599
[adam_hill]: because you recognized you were in that
zone of excellence and then you you had
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00:25:45,659 –> 00:25:51,709
[adam_hill]: the you you wanted to take this
leap and and you know even even though
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00:25:52,891 –> 00:25:57,058
[adam_hill]: you’d mentioned that you were the sole
bread winner for your household you know and
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00:25:57,098 –> 00:25:59,665
[adam_hill]: you were making a good ince you
ere you were doing all of these great
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00:25:59,725 –> 00:26:07,020
[adam_hill]: things and but you know you overcame
that fear and went anyway and so when
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00:26:07,080 –> 00:26:10,846
[adam_hill]: that process happened when when you made
that initial leap i kind of want to
509
00:26:11,106 –> 00:26:16,336
[adam_hill]: jump around that how how was that
for the first year what was it like
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00:26:16,376 –> 00:26:19,221
[adam_hill]: within that first year did you were
there times where you were like i just
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00:26:19,281 –> 00:26:20,844
[adam_hill]: can’t do this any more where there’re
times
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00:26:20,772 –> 00:26:20,974
[niomi_hurley]: oh
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00:26:20,864 –> 00:26:22,627
[adam_hill]: where you were like this is awesome
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00:26:24,063 –> 00:26:29,712
[niomi_hurley]: definitely and i mean my husband was
working as well so i was probably the
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00:26:29,772 –> 00:26:34,460
[niomi_hurley]: primary income in so we did have
some income but it didn’t match our
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00:26:34,302 –> 00:26:35,010
[adam_hill]: hm
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00:26:34,901 –> 00:26:38,887
[niomi_hurley]: standard of ving and all of those
things that we were used to right so
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00:26:38,988 –> 00:26:44,016
[niomi_hurley]: i felt like by doing this i’m
also having my family have to make sacrifices
519
00:26:44,096 –> 00:26:47,722
[niomi_hurley]: so i’m letting them down so there’s
that pressure of fear of being disliked hidden
520
00:26:47,842 –> 00:26:53,392
[niomi_hurley]: in letting people down um and the
first step i took is when i came
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00:26:53,452 –> 00:26:56,757
[niomi_hurley]: out i had established myself as i
said with a whole heap of credibility with
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[niomi_hurley]: a range of people in different industries
mainly mining industries i was working in the
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00:27:02,306 –> 00:27:07,735
[niomi_hurley]: transport industry and i was on a
transport industry association i had heaps of contact
524
00:27:08,196 –> 00:27:11,361
[niomi_hurley]: so i did what you do right
ask your friends for help what they say
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00:27:11,542 –> 00:27:14,126
[niomi_hurley]: you first go into business so i
emailed everyone
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00:27:14,000 –> 00:27:14,182
[adam_hill]: right
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00:27:14,447 –> 00:27:17,311
[niomi_hurley]: told them what i was doing all
this sort of stuff i got all these
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00:27:17,412 –> 00:27:23,121
[niomi_hurley]: emails going you’ll be awesome at that
men have no no hesitation of knowing that
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00:27:23,161 –> 00:27:27,974
[niomi_hurley]: you succeed no one person engaged me
one person went to work
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[adam_hill]: m
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00:27:28,495 –> 00:27:28,775
[niomi_hurley]: and that
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[adam_hill]: m
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00:27:28,835 –> 00:27:32,802
[niomi_hurley]: was just a real slap in the
face of oh i think this is going
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00:27:32,842 –> 00:27:35,927
[niomi_hurley]: to be easy so that was my
first thing i had to overcome that i’m
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00:27:35,967 –> 00:27:39,563
[niomi_hurley]: going to have to create this it’s
not going to be given to me um
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00:27:40,005 –> 00:27:40,680
[adam_hill]: hm
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00:27:40,611 –> 00:27:45,560
[niomi_hurley]: m did i think about getting a
day job probably in the early days probably
538
00:27:45,600 –> 00:27:48,064
[niomi_hurley]: about once a month i thought i’ve
done the right
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00:27:48,030 –> 00:27:48,271
[adam_hill]: yeah
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00:27:48,124 –> 00:27:50,127
[niomi_hurley]: thing and then
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00:27:50,060 –> 00:27:50,221
[adam_hill]: yeah
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00:27:50,247 –> 00:27:54,434
[niomi_hurley]: as i went searching through sklooking for
what was advertised i’m looking at the job
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00:27:54,494 –> 00:27:59,240
[niomi_hurley]: going now what are you doing and
i would push it down so yeah i
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00:27:59,360 –> 00:28:05,794
[niomi_hurley]: have the start was really high high
and really low lows over time that itself
545
00:28:06,054 –> 00:28:11,298
[niomi_hurley]: has given me the tools and the
strength and the self believe to now when
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00:28:11,358 –> 00:28:15,662
[niomi_hurley]: i’m facing it low i actually can
snap myself out of it go hang on
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00:28:15,762 –> 00:28:18,945
[niomi_hurley]: take a breath you’ve been here before
you don’t need to go that you’ve got
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00:28:18,965 –> 00:28:23,249
[niomi_hurley]: a lot to give so it’s i
value those moments because that’s what strength in
549
00:28:23,309 –> 00:28:25,591
[niomi_hurley]: the muscle you know to get me
to where i am now
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00:28:25,692 –> 00:28:31,446
[adam_hill]: hm m yeah that’s and that’s that’s
huge for for people that might be listening
551
00:28:31,506 –> 00:28:34,591
[adam_hill]: thinking they got they have to take
that leap they want to take that leap
552
00:28:34,631 –> 00:28:37,897
[adam_hill]: but i know that there’s there’s a
lot of people out there that have these
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00:28:37,977 –> 00:28:42,745
[adam_hill]: ideas have these have s mission driven
you know messages that they want to share
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00:28:42,805 –> 00:28:47,753
[adam_hill]: with the world that but they’re afraid
to because they’re in that safe and secure
555
00:28:47,873 –> 00:28:53,182
[adam_hill]: spot and i just i want i
want them to hear stories yours because it’s
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00:28:53,242 –> 00:28:58,010
[adam_hill]: very it’s very important that you know
they understand that that be those beginning stages
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00:28:58,070 –> 00:29:03,499
[adam_hill]: yes they’re very lonely they’re very you
know they’re very empty it’s shouting into the
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00:29:03,640 –> 00:29:09,143
[adam_hill]: and they’re shouting you know into the
empty void but eventually and at some point
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00:29:09,624 –> 00:29:11,367
[adam_hill]: it starts to trickle in and you
start
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00:29:11,413 –> 00:29:11,577
[niomi_hurley]: yes
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00:29:11,427 –> 00:29:15,574
[adam_hill]: to experience that success and and i
was so fortunate to see
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00:29:15,522 –> 00:29:15,542
[niomi_hurley]: m
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00:29:16,335 –> 00:29:20,302
[adam_hill]: your growth and your trajectory since the
very beginning and that’s that was that was
564
00:29:20,382 –> 00:29:24,328
[adam_hill]: so great because just watching you have
this great idea of what you wanted to
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00:29:24,389 –> 00:29:30,799
[adam_hill]: achieve leaving you your job jumping out
into this on you know jumping out into
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00:29:30,859 –> 00:29:34,726
[adam_hill]: this world of the unknown and then
building it and what you have and and
567
00:29:35,968 –> 00:29:39,814
[adam_hill]: seeing your success forms grow as well
i’ve been on a on a couple of
568
00:29:39,854 –> 00:29:45,424
[adam_hill]: your your success forms which are which
are these great full day events you know
569
00:29:45,584 –> 00:29:50,572
[adam_hill]: where you bring in speakers and you
share um it’s been neat to see those
570
00:29:50,632 –> 00:29:51,774
[adam_hill]: grow too can you
571
00:29:51,782 –> 00:29:51,944
[niomi_hurley]: yeah
572
00:29:51,854 –> 00:29:54,980
[adam_hill]: tell us about how those are doing
and what’s coming with those m
573
00:29:55,392 –> 00:30:01,442
[niomi_hurley]: yeah so i am i really love
those one of my other other places i
574
00:30:01,502 –> 00:30:06,571
[niomi_hurley]: mean my genius is getting people together
collaborating referals all those sorts of things you
575
00:30:06,611 –> 00:30:09,616
[niomi_hurley]: know seeing people grow and it doesn’t
mean they have to sign up with me
576
00:30:09,736 –> 00:30:12,441
[niomi_hurley]: to do it you know it’s connecting
them with the right people
577
00:30:12,758 –> 00:30:13,290
[adam_hill]: hm
578
00:30:12,921 –> 00:30:17,449
[niomi_hurley]: and that’s what the success for ems
do and i’m able to run them with
579
00:30:17,569 –> 00:30:21,936
[niomi_hurley]: technology thank you getting you know speakers
in from all over the world such as
580
00:30:21,977 –> 00:30:28,347
[niomi_hurley]: yourself and stream online and also have
it in person so it was a little
581
00:30:28,367 –> 00:30:32,795
[niomi_hurley]: bit again here it was a little
bit challenging when covid came to western australia
582
00:30:32,875 –> 00:30:36,000
[niomi_hurley]: so we were right behind the rest
of the world and we were kind of
583
00:30:36,080 –> 00:30:38,905
[niomi_hurley]: in a little bubble we even cut
our borders off from the rest of the
584
00:30:38,945 –> 00:30:42,411
[niomi_hurley]: country to keep us safe so when
they open those
585
00:30:42,414 –> 00:30:42,535
[adam_hill]: it
586
00:30:42,491 –> 00:30:46,557
[niomi_hurley]: borders there was the mask mandate you
know all that sort of stuff coming just
587
00:30:46,658 –> 00:30:48,801
[niomi_hurley]: as i was running a form so
588
00:30:49,362 –> 00:30:49,564
[adam_hill]: right
589
00:30:49,482 –> 00:30:51,646
[niomi_hurley]: that that taught me to piet
590
00:30:51,690 –> 00:30:52,620
[adam_hill]: yeah
591
00:30:51,766 –> 00:30:56,073
[niomi_hurley]: right because i didn’t have enough people
in the room to me really viable so
592
00:30:56,274 –> 00:31:01,342
[niomi_hurley]: i thought why don’t i stream online
as well and you know there was there’s
593
00:31:01,542 –> 00:31:05,108
[niomi_hurley]: mixed people have their own self belief
systems and i think we’re all entitled to
594
00:31:05,128 –> 00:31:09,576
[niomi_hurley]: that so there was some people that
didn’t want to follow the mandates that were
595
00:31:09,616 –> 00:31:13,282
[niomi_hurley]: given by the government for their own
personal reasons and so i thought that would
596
00:31:13,442 –> 00:31:19,372
[niomi_hurley]: give an opportunity for inclusivity ter everyone
could attend but i suppose
597
00:31:19,140 –> 00:31:19,160
[adam_hill]: m
598
00:31:19,432 –> 00:31:22,477
[niomi_hurley]: that’s where that shifting that focus like
i went in i didn’t get the ticket
599
00:31:22,578 –> 00:31:26,284
[niomi_hurley]: sales i could have sat there and
really felt sorry for myself which i did
600
00:31:26,344 –> 00:31:29,649
[niomi_hurley]: a tiny bit if i’m being honest
but then it came the time to pull
601
00:31:29,676 –> 00:31:30,390
[adam_hill]: hm
602
00:31:29,689 –> 00:31:34,198
[niomi_hurley]: it out what are you going to
and when you move out of that that
603
00:31:34,599 –> 00:31:39,573
[niomi_hurley]: place of a catastrophe supposed for lack
of a better word you get clarity you
604
00:31:39,633 –> 00:31:44,445
[niomi_hurley]: come up with different ideas you can
think differently and so we’ve got another one
605
00:31:44,605 –> 00:31:48,632
[niomi_hurley]: actually coming up early in the new
year so thank you adam for putting your
606
00:31:48,672 –> 00:31:50,635
[niomi_hurley]: hand up again we should be fantastic
607
00:31:50,790 –> 00:31:51,092
[adam_hill]: yeah
608
00:31:50,955 –> 00:31:53,960
[niomi_hurley]: and i hope to run them at
least a couple of times a year because
609
00:31:54,281 –> 00:32:00,134
[niomi_hurley]: it all it gives people access to
the kind of people like us that are
610
00:32:00,194 –> 00:32:05,074
[niomi_hurley]: able to share at a minimal expense
now when someone gets
611
00:32:05,070 –> 00:32:05,214
[adam_hill]: yeah
612
00:32:05,214 –> 00:32:09,381
[niomi_hurley]: really good at what they do obviously
their value financially grows up as well and
613
00:32:09,442 –> 00:32:13,488
[niomi_hurley]: some people can’t access those services so
i feel like in that forum space
614
00:32:13,684 –> 00:32:13,704
[adam_hill]: i
615
00:32:13,949 –> 00:32:17,919
[niomi_hurley]: it gives all people of back rounds
of all clients to be able to access
616
00:32:18,662 –> 00:32:21,230
[niomi_hurley]: those quality people and their messages
617
00:32:22,160 –> 00:32:28,458
[adam_hill]: yeah yeah that and and that’s what
i’ve found too watching those is you’re bringing
618
00:32:28,638 –> 00:32:33,166
[adam_hill]: so much into that it’s like it’s
like a wholistic whole life you know experience
619
00:32:33,266 –> 00:32:37,353
[adam_hill]: and and i really i really enjoyed
it i rememe that that covid experience how
620
00:32:37,493 –> 00:32:42,822
[adam_hill]: how quickly you know it hit and
you scrambled but you pulled it off and
621
00:32:42,882 –> 00:32:47,590
[adam_hill]: that that’s that’s a testament i think
really to a lot of the bus this
622
00:32:47,650 –> 00:32:50,895
[adam_hill]: is during that time a lot of
people were complaining and
623
00:32:51,083 –> 00:32:51,228
[niomi_hurley]: yeah
624
00:32:52,137 –> 00:32:58,227
[adam_hill]: i get it you know when things
threaten your business you know it stinks when
625
00:32:58,308 –> 00:33:04,177
[adam_hill]: things threaten our livelihood it stinks but
those who were successful adapted and and i
626
00:33:04,217 –> 00:33:08,344
[adam_hill]: think those who thrive thrive adapted which
is exactly
627
00:33:08,014 –> 00:33:08,178
[niomi_hurley]: yeah
628
00:33:08,384 –> 00:33:10,087
[adam_hill]: what you did and then your
629
00:33:10,019 –> 00:33:10,182
[niomi_hurley]: yeah
630
00:33:10,187 –> 00:33:13,872
[adam_hill]: next event became even more cessful because
you were you know you were able to
631
00:33:13,973 –> 00:33:18,759
[adam_hill]: do virtual and in person that time
again and it worked out really well
632
00:33:20,013 –> 00:33:24,406
[niomi_hurley]: and i remember one event last year
i had all planned and all had ready
633
00:33:24,727 –> 00:33:28,966
[niomi_hurley]: and actually got covid so we had
restrictions around leaving
634
00:33:28,980 –> 00:33:29,286
[adam_hill]: oh
635
00:33:29,006 –> 00:33:31,630
[niomi_hurley]: the house and i had to pivot
again and go okay this one is just
636
00:33:31,690 –> 00:33:34,235
[niomi_hurley]: purely online you know i can’t do
it in person so
637
00:33:34,610 –> 00:33:34,791
[adam_hill]: right
638
00:33:35,677 –> 00:33:42,830
[niomi_hurley]: yeah’sit’s understanding though that if you’re in
a place where it does get you down
639
00:33:43,682 –> 00:33:45,147
[niomi_hurley]: it’s okay because it’s meant to
640
00:33:45,408 –> 00:33:46,080
[adam_hill]: hm
641
00:33:45,830 –> 00:33:50,776
[niomi_hurley]: because growth doesn’t come from a place
of comfort it comes from being uncomfortable
642
00:33:50,923 –> 00:33:51,630
[adam_hill]: hm
643
00:33:51,598 –> 00:33:58,513
[niomi_hurley]: and you know it’s just not unpacking
and staying there know making sure and it’s
644
00:33:58,593 –> 00:34:02,617
[niomi_hurley]: always got something to teach us and
i tell this especially to my kids you
645
00:34:02,657 –> 00:34:06,620
[niomi_hurley]: know if they’re feeling sad or they’re
feeling like something there feel it what’s it
646
00:34:06,680 –> 00:34:10,626
[niomi_hurley]: trying to teach you what’s it trying
to give you and then there comes a
647
00:34:10,706 –> 00:34:13,851
[niomi_hurley]: point where i’m like all right come
on this is getting you know a bit
648
00:34:13,931 –> 00:34:16,155
[niomi_hurley]: rough now how are we going to
change it how are you going to re
649
00:34:16,275 –> 00:34:21,337
[niomi_hurley]: frame and move forward but some of
the clients that i see unfortunately we had
650
00:34:21,397 –> 00:34:22,444
[niomi_hurley]: a generation where we wouldn’t
651
00:34:22,290 –> 00:34:22,596
[adam_hill]: oh
652
00:34:22,484 –> 00:34:25,815
[niomi_hurley]: let people feel so we pushed everything
down
653
00:34:25,572 –> 00:34:26,580
[adam_hill]: hm
654
00:34:26,235 –> 00:34:31,464
[niomi_hurley]: and then it becomes stuck in energy
bodies a body systems and re framing in
655
00:34:31,524 –> 00:34:35,310
[niomi_hurley]: the brain all those sorts of things
then we switched and then we have a
656
00:34:35,350 –> 00:34:39,799
[niomi_hurley]: generation we’re saying feel feel it’s okay
to feel these people don’t know how to
657
00:34:39,879 –> 00:34:42,984
[niomi_hurley]: turn off their feelings and then we
have a space
658
00:34:42,832 –> 00:34:42,852
[adam_hill]: h
659
00:34:43,044 –> 00:34:44,086
[niomi_hurley]: where we’ve got increased
660
00:34:43,779 –> 00:34:43,800
[adam_hill]: m
661
00:34:44,146 –> 00:34:48,733
[niomi_hurley]: mental health issues and people that have
limited coping skills and able to adapt to
662
00:34:48,814 –> 00:34:53,762
[niomi_hurley]: life and i’m hoping that from the
influence of myself and other leaders like you
663
00:34:54,083 –> 00:34:57,712
[niomi_hurley]: in this environment that we can help
shift that a little bit more for the
664
00:34:57,772 –> 00:35:02,772
[niomi_hurley]: next generation to go how about we
can bind those and get a balance how
665
00:35:02,792 –> 00:35:03,033
[niomi_hurley]: about we
666
00:35:03,130 –> 00:35:03,271
[adam_hill]: yeah
667
00:35:03,193 –> 00:35:03,473
[niomi_hurley]: feel
668
00:35:03,814 –> 00:35:03,995
[adam_hill]: yeah
669
00:35:04,054 –> 00:35:08,241
[niomi_hurley]: and be there but then move on
and create our capabilities and get past that
670
00:35:10,520 –> 00:35:15,287
[adam_hill]: that’s that’s that’s really great advice and
that’s a great way to look at how
671
00:35:15,368 –> 00:35:19,294
[adam_hill]: to how to do that and i’d
never heard it put that way before and
672
00:35:19,354 –> 00:35:23,782
[adam_hill]: it’s really profound the way you know
you mentioned that we have a generation that
673
00:35:23,982 –> 00:35:26,166
[adam_hill]: was trained not to feel and
674
00:35:26,004 –> 00:35:26,107
[niomi_hurley]: ah
675
00:35:26,366 –> 00:35:30,433
[adam_hill]: you know i think being a product
of that generation especially in our younger age
676
00:35:30,493 –> 00:35:33,578
[adam_hill]: it’s like all righ well that led
to a lot of pent up anxiety and
677
00:35:33,618 –> 00:35:37,685
[adam_hill]: i remember how that hit me when
i was when i was in college um
678
00:35:37,965 –> 00:35:40,670
[adam_hill]: it leads to abuse and things like
that i
679
00:35:40,712 –> 00:35:41,562
[niomi_hurley]: yeah
680
00:35:40,750 –> 00:35:44,416
[adam_hill]: can relate with you know my kids
and how how they feel and feel and
681
00:35:44,476 –> 00:35:49,185
[adam_hill]: feel it’s a lot but so that
balance is really important and needed there so
682
00:35:49,465 –> 00:35:55,757
[adam_hill]: i think yeah you’re finding that balance
within the the leadership generation as well is
683
00:35:55,777 –> 00:35:57,373
[adam_hill]: gonna be important yeah
684
00:35:57,242 –> 00:36:02,050
[niomi_hurley]: yeah and i mean most of the
leaders now except for the up and coming
685
00:36:02,290 –> 00:36:05,776
[niomi_hurley]: great inspiring leaders which i love working
with but at a
686
00:36:05,832 –> 00:36:05,853
[adam_hill]: m
687
00:36:05,916 –> 00:36:10,905
[niomi_hurley]: corporate a high corporate level let’s admit
it ajority are of that middle age sort
688
00:36:10,965 –> 00:36:14,651
[niomi_hurley]: of realm so you know they’re the
kids that were brought up i’ll give you
689
00:36:14,731 –> 00:36:17,416
[niomi_hurley]: something to cry for you know like
you can’t
690
00:36:17,280 –> 00:36:18,660
[adam_hill]: yeah
691
00:36:17,456 –> 00:36:18,698
[niomi_hurley]: feel emotions and the only
692
00:36:18,721 –> 00:36:18,885
[adam_hill]: right
693
00:36:18,738 –> 00:36:22,264
[niomi_hurley]: reason our parents did that is because
they didn’t now how to feel emotion so
694
00:36:22,344 –> 00:36:26,932
[niomi_hurley]: they put them in an uncomfortable space
you know but actually giving
695
00:36:26,875 –> 00:36:26,916
[adam_hill]: h
696
00:36:27,032 –> 00:36:27,713
[niomi_hurley]: space for our
697
00:36:27,669 –> 00:36:27,690
[adam_hill]: m
698
00:36:27,773 –> 00:36:31,639
[niomi_hurley]: kids to be able to feel and
even the people we work with giving them
699
00:36:31,659 –> 00:36:36,052
[niomi_hurley]: that space to feel then giving them
the tools to actually create their resilience and
700
00:36:36,313 –> 00:36:42,205
[niomi_hurley]: and go back to their coping skills
is just gold i think and i think
701
00:36:42,285 –> 00:36:43,086
[niomi_hurley]: that’s part of the
702
00:36:43,096 –> 00:36:43,116
[adam_hill]: h
703
00:36:43,166 –> 00:36:43,787
[niomi_hurley]: evolution of
704
00:36:43,869 –> 00:36:43,890
[adam_hill]: m
705
00:36:44,168 –> 00:36:46,451
[niomi_hurley]: humans as well that we go through
all that you know
706
00:36:48,380 –> 00:36:52,967
[adam_hill]: yeah yeah i love i love that
space and tools give them the space but
707
00:36:53,027 –> 00:36:54,730
[adam_hill]: give them the tools not either
708
00:36:54,493 –> 00:36:54,636
[niomi_hurley]: yeah
709
00:36:54,890 –> 00:36:57,575
[adam_hill]: or not neither but both i love
710
00:36:57,471 –> 00:36:57,492
[niomi_hurley]: m
711
00:36:57,635 –> 00:37:03,910
[adam_hill]: that yeah so and so what’s next
for naomi what’s next for you what are
712
00:37:03,970 –> 00:37:04,090
[adam_hill]: you
713
00:37:04,242 –> 00:37:05,301
[niomi_hurley]: yeah
714
00:37:04,431 –> 00:37:06,758
[adam_hill]: working on now what’s what’s coming up
the pike
715
00:37:07,883 –> 00:37:12,170
[niomi_hurley]: um so i take a deep breath
in again because everything that you think of
716
00:37:12,351 –> 00:37:15,436
[niomi_hurley]: comes with all of that fear but
look what
717
00:37:15,521 –> 00:37:15,826
[adam_hill]: oh yeah
718
00:37:15,796 –> 00:37:20,625
[niomi_hurley]: what’s next for me is my mind
is was going on on how i can
719
00:37:20,745 –> 00:37:25,753
[niomi_hurley]: serve and so i have i’ve got
some really great leadership programs i’m working with
720
00:37:25,793 –> 00:37:30,681
[niomi_hurley]: the business with locally which is just
really great and it’s actually going in on
721
00:37:31,042 –> 00:37:37,288
[niomi_hurley]: giving the team training but actually doing
some subconscious programming along the way right like
722
00:37:38,029 –> 00:37:39,011
[niomi_hurley]: they’re dealing with difficult
723
00:37:38,682 –> 00:37:38,702
[adam_hill]: m
724
00:37:39,091 –> 00:37:43,758
[niomi_hurley]: people course i put together people come
into that and most of that course is
725
00:37:43,879 –> 00:37:47,838
[niomi_hurley]: okay so why do they trigger you
what’s going on within you and so
726
00:37:47,875 –> 00:37:47,896
[adam_hill]: h
727
00:37:47,918 –> 00:37:48,681
[niomi_hurley]: it’s changing the
728
00:37:48,669 –> 00:37:48,690
[adam_hill]: m
729
00:37:48,741 –> 00:37:52,452
[niomi_hurley]: face of people that when they go
into the environment is less about the people
730
00:37:52,532 –> 00:37:56,757
[niomi_hurley]: around them and more about how they
present how they come into the world and
731
00:37:56,838 –> 00:38:01,534
[niomi_hurley]: so then they can actually level up
their leadership they’re going through all of the
732
00:38:01,654 –> 00:38:02,255
[niomi_hurley]: psychological
733
00:38:01,690 –> 00:38:01,851
[adam_hill]: yeah
734
00:38:02,476 –> 00:38:07,083
[niomi_hurley]: aspects as well of conformity why people
perform the way they’re doing groups all of
735
00:38:07,143 –> 00:38:11,010
[niomi_hurley]: that to give their leaders some sort
of insight into their teams and how they
736
00:38:11,070 –> 00:38:11,971
[niomi_hurley]: can get the best out of
737
00:38:12,300 –> 00:38:12,463
[adam_hill]: oh
738
00:38:12,933 –> 00:38:17,380
[niomi_hurley]: um and when i first started my
business i wanted to serve the world i
739
00:38:17,460 –> 00:38:21,066
[niomi_hurley]: had no niche i was i didn’t
want a niche because that would exclude people
740
00:38:21,407 –> 00:38:26,816
[niomi_hurley]: but over time i’ve really found my
passion my skill set really thrives when i’m
741
00:38:26,856 –> 00:38:29,741
[niomi_hurley]: working with leaders and working in the
corporate world still
742
00:38:29,521 –> 00:38:29,602
[adam_hill]: oh
743
00:38:29,921 –> 00:38:33,327
[niomi_hurley]: so you can take the girl out
of corporate you can’t take corporate out of
744
00:38:33,367 –> 00:38:34,689
[niomi_hurley]: the girl right so
745
00:38:35,922 –> 00:38:36,126
[adam_hill]: right
746
00:38:36,152 –> 00:38:37,253
[niomi_hurley]: i’m actually developing
747
00:38:36,870 –> 00:38:36,890
[adam_hill]: m
748
00:38:37,814 –> 00:38:41,941
[niomi_hurley]: some programs at the moment which will
be like a membership again for people that
749
00:38:42,001 –> 00:38:45,868
[niomi_hurley]: have some limited affordability so they can
still access some of the information that i
750
00:38:45,968 –> 00:38:51,237
[niomi_hurley]: share forms a still go you go
ahead ve got some online trainings and things
751
00:38:51,277 –> 00:38:56,806
[niomi_hurley]: that i’m doing and also the individual
services because some of the people that i’m
752
00:38:57,347 –> 00:39:01,414
[niomi_hurley]: involved with corporately then go well i
want to get rid of subconscious programming
753
00:39:00,870 –> 00:39:01,151
[adam_hill]: oh
754
00:39:01,614 –> 00:39:07,163
[niomi_hurley]: which is where the ability for one
or one sessions comes in and the ability
755
00:39:06,840 –> 00:39:07,770
[adam_hill]: oh
756
00:39:07,263 –> 00:39:09,908
[niomi_hurley]: to do that as well over zoom
or in person
757
00:39:09,810 –> 00:39:10,052
[adam_hill]: oh
758
00:39:09,988 –> 00:39:10,950
[niomi_hurley]: is great because
759
00:39:11,328 –> 00:39:11,490
[adam_hill]: yeah
760
00:39:11,450 –> 00:39:14,239
[niomi_hurley]: it doesn’t limit the people that i
can help which is just awesome
761
00:39:16,391 –> 00:39:19,716
[adam_hill]: yeah well that’s fantastic and and i
know you kind of you mentioned in there
762
00:39:19,937 –> 00:39:23,983
[adam_hill]: i heard it loud and clear but
i know you kind of glossed over it
763
00:39:24,043 –> 00:39:26,888
[adam_hill]: was the dealing with difficult people course
i
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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[adam_hill]: love that idea so can you
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[niomi_hurley]: oh
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[adam_hill]: can you just basically just give a
quick shout
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[niomi_hurley]: ah
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[adam_hill]: out on that because i think there’s
a lot of leaders that can benefit from
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[adam_hill]: it
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[niomi_hurley]: it’s because we’re going to the place
we don’t deal with this is the thing
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00:39:40,731 –> 00:39:44,738
[niomi_hurley]: leaders don’t deal with difficult people a
lot of the time not
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[adam_hill]: h
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[niomi_hurley]: saying everyone but
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[adam_hill]: m
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[niomi_hurley]: and then that career it’s people in
the workplace that aren’t performing that then pieces
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00:39:50,888 –> 00:39:54,414
[niomi_hurley]: off the people that are performing and
then you lose talent or you just lose
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00:39:54,454 –> 00:39:56,998
[niomi_hurley]: productivity right so the
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00:39:56,941 –> 00:39:57,103
[adam_hill]: yeah
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[niomi_hurley]: dealing with difficult
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00:39:57,488 –> 00:39:57,671
[adam_hill]: right
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00:39:57,819 –> 00:40:04,891
[niomi_hurley]: people course goes in more looking internally
so it looks at personality testing what personality
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00:40:04,931 –> 00:40:07,796
[niomi_hurley]: they come out i go through tony
robin’s
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[adam_hill]: h
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00:40:08,157 –> 00:40:08,297
[niomi_hurley]: six
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[adam_hill]: m
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[niomi_hurley]: cortes certainty uncertainty growth all of those
sorts of things to help them get an
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[niomi_hurley]: understanding of why they come in and
present the way they do i also talk
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[niomi_hurley]: about the four core roles that maria
here teachers which is the sick one the
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00:40:25,497 –> 00:40:30,845
[niomi_hurley]: rebel the achiever or the care so
people are the one or a combination
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00:40:30,641 –> 00:40:30,702
[adam_hill]: hm
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00:40:30,905 –> 00:40:35,513
[niomi_hurley]: of those and understanding why you’re one
of those and why subconsciously you’re wide that
793
00:40:35,573 –> 00:40:40,481
[niomi_hurley]: way can then also help you understand
why other people are wide that way right
794
00:40:40,802 –> 00:40:44,714
[niomi_hurley]: they come they don’t treat you and
i like they’re not trying to
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00:40:44,730 –> 00:40:44,893
[adam_hill]: yeah
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00:40:44,754 –> 00:40:49,762
[niomi_hurley]: compete with me they can’t help it
that’s their subconscious wiring you know and so
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00:40:49,902 –> 00:40:53,829
[niomi_hurley]: moving through that space and then going
into okay hear some techniques that you can
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00:40:53,929 –> 00:40:59,558
[niomi_hurley]: help also now do you with people
of all of those different traits and when
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[niomi_hurley]: they’re displaying those needs
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[adam_hill]: m
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00:41:00,941 –> 00:41:02,103
[niomi_hurley]: so it’s really
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[adam_hill]: m
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00:41:02,964 –> 00:41:08,255
[niomi_hurley]: come i sell them what they want
give them what they need of course if
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00:41:08,356 –> 00:41:08,978
[niomi_hurley]: i’m being honest
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00:41:09,750 –> 00:41:13,216
[adam_hill]: yeah well that’s why i wanted to
touch on it because i know that that’s
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00:41:13,296 –> 00:41:20,227
[adam_hill]: a lot of what’s ignored in in
the corporate world is looking at you know
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00:41:20,267 –> 00:41:25,035
[adam_hill]: that the folks i mean you said
it so perfectly the fact that we’re tolerating
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00:41:25,616 –> 00:41:29,002
[adam_hill]: maybe the people that we shouldn’t be
tolerating at the expense of the people that
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[adam_hill]: are really really building the company and
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00:41:31,762 –> 00:41:31,944
[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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[adam_hill]: we’re going to lose that talent we
don’t address that and we don’t nip that
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[adam_hill]: stuff in the butt so dealing with
difficult people i think that there’s a ton
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00:41:40,581 –> 00:41:45,029
[adam_hill]: of value in of course just like
that so and they can find that at
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[adam_hill]: your website
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00:41:46,742 –> 00:41:51,530
[niomi_hurley]: yes if they go to get up
and grow consulting dot com dot they’ll find
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00:41:51,590 –> 00:41:55,957
[niomi_hurley]: a whole range of courses that i
do and i think traditionally training in leadership
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00:41:56,378 –> 00:42:01,506
[niomi_hurley]: when we talk about has been ditonally
around like the my brigs personality testing or
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00:42:01,647 –> 00:42:03,350
[niomi_hurley]: actually which i do touch on
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[adam_hill]: hm
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00:42:03,690 –> 00:42:09,460
[niomi_hurley]: all personality testing but we’re never actually
told that that’s not fixed right and i
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00:42:09,540 –> 00:42:10,682
[niomi_hurley]: think as well our genera a
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[adam_hill]: h
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[niomi_hurley]: lot of us
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[adam_hill]: m
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00:42:11,683 –> 00:42:15,450
[niomi_hurley]: were raised in this fixed mind set
environment where you are who you are you
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[niomi_hurley]: do what you do you get a
job but shifting into more of that growth
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[niomi_hurley]: mind set which is covered in this
course as well actually then tells us that
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00:42:24,168 –> 00:42:28,746
[niomi_hurley]: this isn’t who we are this is
who we’re programme to be right now everything
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00:42:28,786 –> 00:42:29,290
[niomi_hurley]: is valuable
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00:42:29,473 –> 00:42:30,180
[adam_hill]: hm
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[niomi_hurley]: everything s changeable
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00:42:33,140 –> 00:42:40,152
[adam_hill]: we we’re always fluid always changing i
love that so that’s a t’sit’sit’s a it’s
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[adam_hill]: great work that you’re doing here because
you’re getting to the root of of you
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[adam_hill]: know truly ship which is personalities managing
personalities managing our own personalities managing our feelings
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[adam_hill]: managing all of our fears and all
of those things that seem to be a
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[adam_hill]: limited within our minds actually become an
asset and you’re
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah
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00:42:59,404 –> 00:43:02,789
[adam_hill]: turning them into an asset i think
you’re doing wonderful work naomi and i hope
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[adam_hill]: people look you up like like you
said they can find you get up and
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00:43:07,177 –> 00:43:10,665
[adam_hill]: grow consulting dot com dot a you
and
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00:43:10,502 –> 00:43:10,687
[niomi_hurley]: yes
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00:43:10,885 –> 00:43:13,412
[adam_hill]: any anywhere else that they can find
you any any
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00:43:14,522 –> 00:43:14,805
[niomi_hurley]: yeh
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00:43:14,596 –> 00:43:15,518
[adam_hill]: where else can people find you
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00:43:16,062 –> 00:43:20,709
[niomi_hurley]: i’ve got profiles on socials i’ve got
a company and a personal profile linked in
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00:43:20,850 –> 00:43:24,716
[niomi_hurley]: love for you to reach out and
connect always happy to connect with some like
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00:43:24,776 –> 00:43:29,407
[niomi_hurley]: minded people i love that and instagram
and facebook well if people are using those
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00:43:29,487 –> 00:43:30,149
[niomi_hurley]: platforms too
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00:43:32,630 –> 00:43:36,556
[adam_hill]: awesome well thank you so much for
being here naomi this was this was excellent
850
00:43:36,597 –> 00:43:40,964
[adam_hill]: and there’s a ton of value here
and i wish you so much success in
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00:43:41,004 –> 00:43:44,049
[adam_hill]: what you’re doing and based on what
i’ve seen thus far you’re going to you’re
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00:43:44,069 –> 00:43:46,679
[adam_hill]: going to hit moon and you’re going
to help a lot of people along the
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00:43:46,719 –> 00:43:48,587
[adam_hill]: way so thank you so much for
joining us
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00:43:49,422 –> 00:43:54,126
[niomi_hurley]: thank you adam thank you for not
only having me on but also being a
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00:43:54,206 –> 00:43:57,849
[niomi_hurley]: fan you know and a support and
someone i can reach out to i really
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00:43:57,889 –> 00:43:59,551
[niomi_hurley]: appreciate you and i value thank you
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00:44:01,770 –> 00:44:04,758
[adam_hill]: any time thank you everyone for tuning
in we’ll catch you next time