Stepping Into Your Zone of Genius With Niomi Hurley
Everybody talks about overcoming or getting over your fears, or not letting fear stand in your way. But the reality is, it’s always with us. And if we’re waiting for that time when fear won’t be there anymore, then we will be waiting forever. Where a lot of people get stuck, is they don’t realize fear is there for them. But once you’re able to embrace fear and use it for your growth, you begin to step into your zone of genius. In this conversation, Niomi Hurley, founder of Get Up and Grow Consulting, shares her wisdom around flowing over fear so you can finally step into your zone of genius.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Why fear is healthy
- Zone of excellence vs. zone of genius
- Rising above the fear of being disliked
- Dealing with your emotions through Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT)
- Getting into your zone of genius as a leader
- The recipe for success behind Niomi’s events
- Embracing growth in a place of discomfort
- About her Dealing with Difficult People course
Episode Highlights:
[05:15] What It’s Like to Take a Leap
Taking the leap can be uncomfortable, especially when you don’t have that security of income or when you’re still trying to find that sense of purpose. And when you’re able to embrace that vulnerability and acknowledge that, there’s a sense of relatability with the people you serve. Because we’re all positioned to serve the people that we once were or we are. Once you’re in your zone of genius, you just feel different and you will be feeling joy every time.
[08:18] Why Fear is Healthy
Back in the primitive days, fear was what protected people from threats. And a little bit of fear is actually helpful for us now, and it’s healthy to feel that. It gets the body pumping. It gets everything going and inspires you to go forward. Stepping into the unknown is probably the biggest fear. But you have to trust in your capabilities and your zone of genius. Trust that you’re making a decision from your head, your body, and your heart. If it feels right, then that’s what you need to do.
[09:23] How to Step Into Your Zone of Genius
Your zone of excellence comes when you’re in a space where you’re capable, but it doesn’t light the fire in your belly. But stepping into your zone of genius means that when you’re doing whatever you’re doing, you’ve constantly got a smile on your face because that’s where you’re meant to be. Your zone of genius is what lights your fire and that’s what you should be searching for. The step from the zone of excellence to the zone of genius is filled with uncertainty, unknowing, and that fear element, all of those sorts of things, because you’re in this comfortable space where everything’s familiar.
[17:35] How to Deal with Your Emotions
Through Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) , you go back into the subconscious and look at the things that are holding you back. When something holds us back and threatens our identity or our safety, we automatically come from a place of fear, frustration, or sadness. The emotion just comes out and once we identify it, we can move on. When you go in through the hypnotic state, you can address that and reshift it into the cognition of the adult you are, and then process it a lot more effectively.
Resources Mentioned:
www.getupandgrowconsulting.com.au
www.adamcliffordhill.com/coaching
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[adam_hill]: hello everyone and thank you for joining
us i have a great guest today her2
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[adam_hill]: name is naomi higgs and she is
joining us from western australia so she’s about3
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[adam_hill]: a day ahead so she can see
future so how is the future is everything4
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[adam_hill]: bright down there5
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[niomi_hurley]: yeats brad yeah6
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[adam_hill]: okay good good good to hear that
we have we have bright things ahead well7
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[adam_hill]: naomi is an organizational psychologist and clinical
hypnotherapist she spent many years in the corporate8
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[adam_hill]: world working in h r and safe
management roles before completing a degree in psychology9
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[adam_hill]: and getting a diploma level qualifications in
leadership and management her passion for personal growth10
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[adam_hill]: and the power of subconscious mind then
saw her continue her learning journey to become11
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[adam_hill]: a clinical hypnotherapist at this point she
took a leap to leave her corporate day12
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[adam_hill]: job to rise above that fear to
get into that just start her own business13
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[adam_hill]: get up and grow consulting and it
takes a lot of courage to take that14
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[adam_hill]: leap and to take that leap of
faith on yourself naomi’s mission she is a15
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[adam_hill]: woman on a mission and her mission
to spark curiosity awareness and growth in business16
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[adam_hill]: and individuals that empowers them to move
towards self actualization and achieve more than they17
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[adam_hill]: believed was previously possible a little to
them she helps businesses and individuals to connect18
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[adam_hill]: better to themselves and their individual capabilities
igniting their energy and creating lasting beneficial change19
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[adam_hill]: naomi has a une approach to organizational
psychology mind set growth and healing that helps20
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[adam_hill]: us helps improve areas within people’s lives
or business she runs get up and grow21
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[adam_hill]: consulting which provide so a full range
of organizational psychology strategies h r culture safety22
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[adam_hill]: change management that list goes on and
on i’m so glad you’ve joined us today23
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[adam_hill]: and i ome it’s great to have
you here think24
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[niomi_hurley]: it’s wonderful to be here adam thank
you for the opportunity it’s always great catching25
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[niomi_hurley]: up with you and working with you26
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[adam_hill]: absolutely well we’ve we’ve been on we’ve
been on multiple sides of the camera many27
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[adam_hill]: times and and and from you know
it’s it’s an amazing piece of technology where28
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[adam_hill]: we can actually see other from opposite
ends of the world and share this time29
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[adam_hill]: together many many times though we’ve never
met in person i hope to remedy that30
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[adam_hill]: one day31
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[niomi_hurley]: yes32
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[adam_hill]: but but the first time that we
met was was actually a ver well tony33
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[adam_hill]: robins event even in the midst of
covid we were both a business mastery we34
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[adam_hill]: both shared a team we were on
the same team there where we you know35
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[adam_hill]: set up a charitable foundation and we
were able to raise some funds for some36
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[adam_hill]: worthy causes but the key thing was
i remember at that point that you were37
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[adam_hill]: still you know employed you were still
working for the corporate in the corporate world38
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[adam_hill]: and i remember at that time you
know we got to know each other pretty39
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[adam_hill]: well you are you were dreaming up
this idea of get up and grow consulting40
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[adam_hill]: that would you know that you wanted
to start that you wanted to help people41
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[adam_hill]: in a certain way and as i
mentioned before it takes a lot of courage42
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[adam_hill]: to make that leap so can you
can you give us a little back story43
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[adam_hill]: on how how your how your career
shaped you and and how and how you44
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[adam_hill]: grew up how how your career shaped
you and how you got into consulting45
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah so you might have seen i
actually still breathe in when i think of46
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[niomi_hurley]: that because it was it’s something you
feel through your whole body when you make47
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[niomi_hurley]: decisions like that and48
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[niomi_hurley]: i i had established a really successful
career in the corporate world i was he50
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[niomi_hurley]: and safety manager for quite a large
transport company i established credibility with all of51
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[niomi_hurley]: the clients within the company was leading
a really two really great teams i hate52
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[niomi_hurley]: and had even recruited them with limited
skills but for their personality you know for56
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[niomi_hurley]: their attributes and their value so i’ve
actually been able to help mentor them and57
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[niomi_hurley]: get them into a place where they
were performing really well and it just kind58
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[niomi_hurley]: of came to me and said now
you could do this on a grander scale59
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[niomi_hurley]: it’s something you know you talk about
being in a state of excellence and in60
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[niomi_hurley]: that zone61
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[niomi_hurley]: of excellence and i was there i63
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[adam_hill]: yeah64
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[niomi_hurley]: was really good at what i did
and i was now on right65
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[adam_hill]: it66
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[niomi_hurley]: but helping people and growing people67
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[adam_hill]: oh68
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[niomi_hurley]: sort of was a level69
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[niomi_hurley]: up into my zona genius and71
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[adam_hill]: hm72
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[niomi_hurley]: when you’re in your zona genius you
just feel different you know you’re feeling joy73
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[niomi_hurley]: every time it’s not like you’re working
your there74
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[adam_hill]: right75
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[niomi_hurley]: so i thought76
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[adam_hill]: oh77
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[niomi_hurley]: i really needed to do that for
myself and then also flow on to my78
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[niomi_hurley]: family and my friends and all of
my other relationships and the people that i79
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[niomi_hurley]: help and although it was a really
big leap i feel like would have been80
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[niomi_hurley]: doing a disservice to my purpose of
being here if i didn’t do it o81
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[adam_hill]: sure82
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[niomi_hurley]: programs like business mastery and unleashed the
power within another training i did really prepared83
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[niomi_hurley]: me for that and gave me you
know that ability to step into the fear84
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[niomi_hurley]: because i wasn’t overcoming it it’s every
even in a85
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[niomi_hurley]: business87
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[niomi_hurley]: when you’re running a business whether it’s
large or small there’s fear all along the89
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[niomi_hurley]: way right you’re always experiencing it but
it’s actually being able to step into it90
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[niomi_hurley]: and kind of embrace it91
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[adam_hill]: well i’m glad you say that because
that’s something we try to focus on here92
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[adam_hill]: is that you never overcome fear and
everybody talks about you know that’s the goal93
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[adam_hill]: overcoming fear or you know getting getting
over your fears or don’t let fear stand94
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[adam_hill]: in your way but but the reality
is it’s always with us and if we’re95
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[adam_hill]: waiting for that time where fear is
going to not be there any more then96
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[adam_hill]: we’re going to be waiting forever and
i think that’s where a lot of people97
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[adam_hill]: get stuck as they don’t realize that
the fear is fear is there for them98
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[adam_hill]: so fear was there with you when
you made99
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[adam_hill]: that that leap but you you leaped
anyway you went anyway and how was that101
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[adam_hill]: how how was that did that uh
you know did the fear change at all102
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[adam_hill]: did you did you experience it in
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah i think if one word to
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[niomi_hurley]: being honest like just being105
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[niomi_hurley]: in this uncomfortable107
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[niomi_hurley]: space not having the security109
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[niomi_hurley]: of an income for starters you also
that sense of purpose like here i was111
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[niomi_hurley]: knowing for what i did and now
i just work so no one to say112
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[niomi_hurley]: you’ve done a great job you’re113
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[niomi_hurley]: so it was really uncomfortable117
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[niomi_hurley]: but part of the joy that i’ve
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[niomi_hurley]: that’s just showing120
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[niomi_hurley]: me how capable i122
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[niomi_hurley]: am and how much capability i have
so it every day along this journey and124
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[niomi_hurley]: i was speaking with some other business
owners in a group where i yesterday actually125
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[niomi_hurley]: but it’s actually that part that actually
then also gives us what we need to126
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[niomi_hurley]: serve our clients because we have a
better understanding of them we’re not know some127
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[niomi_hurley]: of our clients might see us especially
when we’re on the high level of what128
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[niomi_hurley]: we’re doing and129
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[niomi_hurley]: there a god or you know how
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[niomi_hurley]: we do it just like everyone else
we come in133
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[niomi_hurley]: and we135
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[niomi_hurley]: sorry137
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[adam_hill]: so the clients being able to see
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[niomi_hurley]: yes139
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[adam_hill]: i love that because yeah that that’s
powerful because they that that gives it a140
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[adam_hill]: sense of of you know relatability and
that’s what we want to serve i’ve heard141
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[adam_hill]: before that we’re we’re all positioned to
serve the people that we once were or142
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[adam_hill]: that we are143
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah144
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[adam_hill]: and so serving those people that that’s
an excellent way of putting it145
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah yeah and i think when you
when146
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[adam_hill]: yeah147
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[niomi_hurley]: you come into that space i mean
acknowledging that fear is helpful fear is there148
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[niomi_hurley]: to help us it149
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[niomi_hurley]: was to help us in our primitive
days of identifying threats and then engaging in151
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[niomi_hurley]: them and a little bit of fear
is actually help helpful for us now and152
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[niomi_hurley]: it’s health to feel that it gets
the body pumping it gets everything going and153
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[niomi_hurley]: inspires you to go forward but it’s
actually154
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[adam_hill]: hm155
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[niomi_hurley]: letting yourself be overcome by that fear
that’s when it becomes unhelpful that’s when156
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[adam_hill]: yeah157
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[niomi_hurley]: there’s so many people out there with
strategies to help you actually just give you158
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[niomi_hurley]: enough of that boost to go right
i’m going to step into the unknown because159
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[niomi_hurley]: let’s face it that’s probably the biggest
fear and just trust that you know if160
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[niomi_hurley]: i made this decision from my head
and my body and my heart and it161
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[niomi_hurley]: feels right then that’s what i need
to do162
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[adam_hill]: it’s having that trust in yourself and
having your trust in your capabilities in that163
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[adam_hill]: zone of genius and the zone of
excellence as you say and i really that164
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[adam_hill]: that stuck out to me how do
you how do you find how does how165
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[adam_hill]: how did you find your zone of
excellence and how how do you think others166
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[adam_hill]: would find their zone of excellence and167
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah168
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[adam_hill]: how could they apply it to their
own lives169
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[niomi_hurley]: well i think a one zone of
excellence comes when your inner space where you’re170
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[niomi_hurley]: really capable but the downside to the
zone of171
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[niomi_hurley]: excellence is173
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[niomi_hurley]: it doesn’t actually light the fire in
your belly now at some time it did175
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[niomi_hurley]: because that’s what drove you to get
into there and so for me safety in176
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[niomi_hurley]: h r was always a passion of
mine and helping people177
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[niomi_hurley]: i was doing major investigations for track
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[niomi_hurley]: really good out was presenting to clients
really good at it i got to a180
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[niomi_hurley]: point where actually realized at i was
i could do it with my ice cost181
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[niomi_hurley]: right so you’re at your zone182
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[niomi_hurley]: of excellence184
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[adam_hill]: m i see185
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[niomi_hurley]: stepping into the zone of genius means
that when you’re doing whatever you’re doing you’ve186
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[niomi_hurley]: constantly got a smile in your face
because that’s where187
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[adam_hill]: hm188
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[niomi_hurley]: you meant to be189
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[adam_hill]: m i got you so there’s a
distinction between that zone of excellence and the190
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[adam_hill]: zone of genius the zone of excellence
is almost like you’ve reached where you you’ve191
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[adam_hill]: reached the point at which you’re bored
or our you’re doing something that that you192
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[adam_hill]: know you’ve your max your max capabilities
or where your our max allowance but your193
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[adam_hill]: your zone of genius is where that’s
what lights your fire that’s what people should194
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[adam_hill]: be searching for is that195
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah196
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[adam_hill]: right197
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[niomi_hurley]: that’s what yeah that’s what198
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[adam_hill]: awesome199
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[niomi_hurley]: i believe and i think it’s the
step from the zone of excellence to the200
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[niomi_hurley]: zone of genius that is filled with
uncertainty and knowing that fear element all of201
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[niomi_hurley]: those sorts of things because you’re in
this mfortable space right everything is familiar someone202
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[niomi_hurley]: throws a problem at you and you
go203
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[adam_hill]: hm204
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[niomi_hurley]: problem i’ve solved it whereas zona genius
is what is going to come at me205
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[niomi_hurley]: and then you got that206
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[adam_hill]: m207
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[niomi_hurley]: self questioning am i going to be
able to cope with it well i say208
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[niomi_hurley]: yes209
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[adam_hill]: hm210
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[niomi_hurley]: because even if you fall over the
scrape eneas learning for the next time right211
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[niomi_hurley]: so you’re always going to serve well
but it’s trusting212
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[adam_hill]: right213
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[niomi_hurley]: yourself to do that214
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[adam_hill]: it sounds like which interesting there is
that it sounds like fear lives in the215
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[adam_hill]: zone of genius but you know fear
might fear is almost absent in the zone216
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[adam_hill]: of excellent maybe not absent but different
because there’s an element of well there’s no217
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[adam_hill]: adventure in it but the218
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[niomi_hurley]: yes219
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[adam_hill]: zone of genius220
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[niomi_hurley]: yes221
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[adam_hill]: seems like there’s there’s adventure in it
right yeah222
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah223
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[adam_hill]: so that’s224
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[niomi_hurley]: and225
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[adam_hill]: that’s really really interesting i’d love to
hear how how you get into the zone226
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[adam_hill]: of genius how other people could get
into that zone out of that excellence227
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[niomi_hurley]: i think what i needed to do
was i need to shift my thinking i228
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[niomi_hurley]: needed to shift my mind set229
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[adam_hill]: hm230
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[niomi_hurley]: and you know i was raised to
go get a job go and build a231
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[niomi_hurley]: house you know all of those things
that created structure and security and certainty in232
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[niomi_hurley]: my life and so that that was
kind of how i was wired on a233
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[niomi_hurley]: subconscious level and then when you get
to that state of genius and most of234
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[niomi_hurley]: my clients on the individual side of
things in that state of excellence they’re there235
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[niomi_hurley]: they’re doing really well but something is
missing they’re236
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[adam_hill]: hm237
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[niomi_hurley]: not going home for field or they’re
going home exhausted from their day because they238
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[niomi_hurley]: had to put too much energy in
it and they come to me to find239
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[niomi_hurley]: out how they can actually shift whatever
is holding him back to actually take that240
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[niomi_hurley]: next step241
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[adam_hill]: yeah and that’s i think that’s something
that a lot of people run into nowadays242
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[adam_hill]: especially high achievers is as they work
for the job they work for the pay243
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[adam_hill]: check and you know it’s very similar
to your store where you know they get244
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[adam_hill]: they get the recognition they get that
they get to that point where they’re the245
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[adam_hill]: ones that are called for all of
those problems and then it just becomes where’s246
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[adam_hill]: the fulfillment you know that247
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah248
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[adam_hill]: they reach that but the realities i
mean and we hear it a lot but249
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[adam_hill]: we don’t actually participate it because we’re
looking for that title we’re looking for that250
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[adam_hill]: paycheck but then all of a sudden
you know we reach it and we’re like251
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[adam_hill]: well what’s next growth is the joys
in the journey you252
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[niomi_hurley]: yes253
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[adam_hill]: know so so so i love that
you make that distinction yeah254
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[niomi_hurley]: and i think that is definitely that’s
the key phrase i might actually borrow that255
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[niomi_hurley]: but the joy is in the journey
and the joy is in facing256
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[adam_hill]: hm257
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[niomi_hurley]: the fear and falling over i usually
say to my clients when they are in258
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[niomi_hurley]: that state of fargo you can list
off all the things that could happen why259
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[niomi_hurley]: is their fear there260
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[adam_hill]: h261
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[niomi_hurley]: and262
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[adam_hill]: m263
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[niomi_hurley]: one of my clients i was speaking
to wanted to launch a new business online264
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[niomi_hurley]: and they were saying to me there’s
going to be people that don’t like my265
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[niomi_hurley]: work i just looked him straight in
the eye went yes that’s true266
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[adam_hill]: h267
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[niomi_hurley]: kind of it268
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[adam_hill]: m269
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[niomi_hurley]: was just accepting that yes all those
things can happen but if they do happen270
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[niomi_hurley]: then what’s the worst you already know
that there’s going to be people that don’t271
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[niomi_hurley]: like it they’re not your ideal client
you move past them you already know that272
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[niomi_hurley]: you might make typos in your socials
post people know you’re real there’s273
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[adam_hill]: hm274
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[niomi_hurley]: authenticity know so it doesn’t matter what
our brain can create it’s really not when275
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[niomi_hurley]: you really sit down and analyze it
the consequences of it aren’t usually deathtifying unless276
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[niomi_hurley]: you’re doing something really extreme obviously but
you know in our277
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[adam_hill]: sure278
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[niomi_hurley]: data m279
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[adam_hill]: right280
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah and i think that’s another fear
that comes up from that is that i281
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[niomi_hurley]: find especially in the leaders is the
fear of being disliked because282
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[adam_hill]: m283
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[niomi_hurley]: we have284
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[adam_hill]: m285
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[niomi_hurley]: this we need to be part of
a tribe especially and this is how we’re286
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[niomi_hurley]: wired subconsciously primary we needed to be
part of a tribe to survive right so287
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[niomi_hurley]: once we’re288
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[adam_hill]: right289
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[niomi_hurley]: in a position where someone doesn’t like
us that threatens our ability to be part290
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[niomi_hurley]: of the tribe to hunt eat be
looked after you know be protected from creditors291
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[niomi_hurley]: so in this day and age though
when we re frame that you know there’s292
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[niomi_hurley]: an old cat lady that can get
on i’m shopping now she doesn’t need to293
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[niomi_hurley]: leave a house you can live alone
and she survives so it’s just trying to294
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[niomi_hurley]: rewire295
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[adam_hill]: oh296
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[niomi_hurley]: some of that subconscious programming297
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[adam_hill]: sure yeah and it’s i can definitely
relate to that fear of being disliked i298
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[adam_hill]: mean i still struggle with that to
this day mean i just don’t and it’s299
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[adam_hill]: amazing what the brain does i mean
yes course we’re afraid of things that you300
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[adam_hill]: know might kill us but the idea
of of oh man you know you mentioned301
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[adam_hill]: the grammatical errors on social media’s like
i get so afraid to post something because302
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[adam_hill]: man did i use the right version
your in that or the303
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[niomi_hurley]: ah304
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[adam_hill]: right version of their somebody’s going to
skewer me for it really what’s the end305
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[adam_hill]: of the world is at the end
of the world but yeah you’re right it’s306
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[adam_hill]: it’s like we do want to be
part of a tribe it’s that natural tendency307
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[adam_hill]: but but man it’s like we want
that tribe to be everybody you know308
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah309
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[adam_hill]: we don’t want to exclude and so
we’re afraid that by losing one person we310
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[adam_hill]: lose everybody but it seems like the
reality is that if we lose you know311
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[adam_hill]: if we if we if we if
we gain the right small tribe and even312
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[adam_hill]: maybe exclude the wrong people then you
know we can be much happier313
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah and we can serve at a
higher level you know and i feel because314
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[niomi_hurley]: we’ve315
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[adam_hill]: hm316
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[niomi_hurley]: ifted out of that space the fear
isn’t driving us any more and we’re pushing317
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[niomi_hurley]: through that and so when we serve
we’re coming from that place authenticity we’ve got318
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[niomi_hurley]: you know one of the issues that
comes up i see with leaders sometimes with319
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[niomi_hurley]: performance management discussions right everyone sees performance
management as a320
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[adam_hill]: hm321
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[niomi_hurley]: negative they know i’m in trouble but
really it should be seen is how can322
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[niomi_hurley]: you serve your people how can you
help them grow how can you help them323
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[niomi_hurley]: develop but having those conversations because there’s
that fear of being disliked people tend to324
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[niomi_hurley]: come into with emotion and325
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[adam_hill]: hm326
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[niomi_hurley]: you know when when we’re speaking with
people if someone comes at you and talks327
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[niomi_hurley]: of emotion it’s kind of like how
a horse consents you know straight away328
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[adam_hill]: right329
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[niomi_hurley]: and and that can become quite triggering
and then the converse tin is just about330
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[niomi_hurley]: each person’s emotions coming through and trying
to have a win whereas when you can331
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[niomi_hurley]: be comfortable in that space or comfortable
in the uncomfortable and sit there and actually332
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[niomi_hurley]: say well what’s my purpose here my
purpose is to help this isn’t for me333
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[niomi_hurley]: to have a win334
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[adam_hill]: h335
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[niomi_hurley]: and you can336
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[adam_hill]: m337
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[niomi_hurley]: strip that emotion away then the conversation
becomes how can we help each other develop338
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[niomi_hurley]: further and it’s a different space to
be in339
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[adam_hill]: okay yeah so and how do you
because i know the dealing with emotion is340
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[adam_hill]: always very difficult but how how do
you deal with that emotion and and take341
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[adam_hill]: it out and rise above that fee
of just getting through that emotion and getting342
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[adam_hill]: to the root of the problem343
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[niomi_hurley]: so i this is probably one of
the basises of the hypnotherapy work i do344
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[niomi_hurley]: is a method called rapid345
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[adam_hill]: m346
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[niomi_hurley]: transformation a therapy347
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[adam_hill]: m348
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[niomi_hurley]: or t t for short was found
i’m a recipe here in the k and349
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[niomi_hurley]: it’s just phenomenal it’s absolutely amazing so
what we do is we go back into350
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[niomi_hurley]: the subconscious and we go okay there’s
this you know thing holding you back here351
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[niomi_hurley]: so when something holds us and it
threatens our identity or our safety we automatically352
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[niomi_hurley]: come from a place of fear or
frustration or sadness okay so emotion just comes353
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[niomi_hurley]: out so we go back and we
okay354
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[adam_hill]: hm355
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[niomi_hurley]: why was that established in the subconscious
why is that actually there in the first356
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[niomi_hurley]: place and then once we identify it
we can move it on and the thing357
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[niomi_hurley]: about the subconscious that some people may
or may not realize is when it actually358
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[niomi_hurley]: is programme so say something happens to
me at the age of four and it’s359
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[niomi_hurley]: reinforced over ten eleven twelve my subconscious
mind grabs it at the age of four360
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[niomi_hurley]: and at that cognition of a four
year old stores it in that361
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[adam_hill]: oh362
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[niomi_hurley]: if you don’t do this you won’t
be safe and when you go363
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[adam_hill]: h364
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[niomi_hurley]: in through the hypnotic state365
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[adam_hill]: m366
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[niomi_hurley]: and you can actually address that you
re shift it into the cognition of the367
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[niomi_hurley]: adult you are and then you can
actually process it a lot more effectively368
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[adam_hill]: i see so it is it is
a reprogramming and it’s reprogramming at the subconscious369
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[adam_hill]: level370
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah371
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[adam_hill]: that’s interesting yeah so so then and
i know a lot of people you know372
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[adam_hill]: when when they hear that you know
when they hear hypnosis they’re thinking oh okay373
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[adam_hill]: here we go some kind of you
know like you know in the pin this374
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[adam_hill]: guy kind of thing of course but
but there is science behind that i mean375
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[adam_hill]: that programming at the subconscious level i
mean that is that is scientific and and376
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[adam_hill]: and it is how we really develop
our paradymesare beliefs are fears everything in there377
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[adam_hill]: and so re programming it that at
that level safe and secure environment is a378
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[adam_hill]: huge way to overcome that and you’ve
had a lot of success with that kind379
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[adam_hill]: of therapy380
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah yeah a lot of success and
and just going back to that point that381
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[niomi_hurley]: you were saying about it being now
seen sometimes to be382
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[adam_hill]: a383
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[niomi_hurley]: a bit i know when i first
started on this journey i used384
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[adam_hill]: hm385
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[niomi_hurley]: to i’ll take you in a meditie
state people accepted that more and so part386
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[niomi_hurley]: of my journey over since i started
my business was actually coming through and being387
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[niomi_hurley]: more authentic and going i don’t care
if people dislike me because i do hypnosis388
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[niomi_hurley]: right or judge me because this is
who i am and so when you go389
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[niomi_hurley]: into those places it’s it’s just going
in and like you say re program in390
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[niomi_hurley]: the brain and if you look at
not391
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[adam_hill]: hm392
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[niomi_hurley]: just the science but also the practical
application you know so many sports teams sports393
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[niomi_hurley]: stars high performance executives so they all
use hypnosis to get them into the right394
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[niomi_hurley]: state before they go in and go
to perform because it can increase your performance395
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[niomi_hurley]: as well you know with how you’re
thinking and how your brain controls the rest396
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[niomi_hurley]: of body and your emotions397
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[adam_hill]: yeah i certainly i certainly believe that
i’m i’m a huge advocate for that kind398
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[adam_hill]: of stuff i mean especially within the
realm of you know not just mental health399
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[adam_hill]: but continuing to effectively being a good
leader i mean it’s it’s it’s something that’s400
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[adam_hill]: powerful that really hasn’t been explored there’s
an you know not to go off on401
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[adam_hill]: too much of a tangent but you
know within the world of mental health there’s402
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[adam_hill]: there’s so much within the medical industry
that’s403
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[niomi_hurley]: oh404
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[adam_hill]: that’s limited you know405
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah406
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[adam_hill]: we’re starting to open up these things
now which is exciting hypnosis you know psychic407
00:20:34,250 –> 00:20:42,163
[adam_hill]: lic you know psychodelictreatments those kinds of
things it’s it’s powerful and i love seeing408
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[adam_hill]: what what these can do and i
wish more leaders would embro those kinds of409
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[adam_hill]: ideas so i think that you’re doing
some great work there and so kind of410
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[adam_hill]: getting into that subconscious subconscious area of
fear is there anything you know short of411
00:21:00,594 –> 00:21:05,662
[adam_hill]: hypnosis is there is there anything that
we can do when we’re leading and when412
00:21:05,722 –> 00:21:09,869
[adam_hill]: we when we’re faced with those kinds
of fears fears of pleasing people or anything413
00:21:09,909 –> 00:21:15,309
[adam_hill]: like that that we can do to
try and get past that you know to414
00:21:15,750 –> 00:21:17,897
[adam_hill]: really push beyond our own limits415
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[niomi_hurley]: yeah so the people that i work
with and i do the hypnosis as well416
00:21:23,329 –> 00:21:26,915
[niomi_hurley]: in the corporate space as well in
groups which is just really super powerful to417
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[adam_hill]: m418
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[niomi_hurley]: try and shift that with individual clients
and with corporate client the three key things419
00:21:32,647 –> 00:21:36,920
[niomi_hurley]: that come up is whatever has presented
in their subconscious has made them feel unsafe420
00:21:37,702 –> 00:21:43,473
[niomi_hurley]: has made them feel unloved it made
them feel unworthy and fear is just421
00:21:43,324 –> 00:21:43,950
[adam_hill]: hm422
00:21:43,593 –> 00:21:48,858
[niomi_hurley]: coming up and it’s reminding us of
one or a combination of those things whenever423
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[niomi_hurley]: we’re facing something so when i went
to go and start my own business it424
00:21:52,281 –> 00:21:58,163
[niomi_hurley]: was if you call yourself a hyphypnotherapist
you’ll be unloved you’re unworthy425
00:21:58,743 –> 00:21:58,804
[adam_hill]: hm426
00:21:58,744 –> 00:22:01,909
[niomi_hurley]: of being able to do something you
love and make bulk amount of money right427
00:22:02,891 –> 00:22:03,111
[niomi_hurley]: you know428
00:22:03,761 –> 00:22:04,004
[adam_hill]: right429
00:22:03,932 –> 00:22:06,437
[niomi_hurley]: you’ll be alone because people won’t be
with you and430
00:22:06,870 –> 00:22:07,830
[adam_hill]: oh431
00:22:06,897 –> 00:22:11,112
[niomi_hurley]: so on that subconscious level it’s being
i would sometimes consciously tell you so if432
00:22:11,132 –> 00:22:14,872
[niomi_hurley]: you know i am safe this is
what i was saying before re framing what433
00:22:14,933 –> 00:22:18,122
[niomi_hurley]: is the worst that can happen and
you434
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[adam_hill]: h435
00:22:19,165 –> 00:22:19,285
[niomi_hurley]: you436
00:22:19,179 –> 00:22:19,200
[adam_hill]: m437
00:22:19,406 –> 00:22:20,709
[niomi_hurley]: are worthy to438
00:22:20,610 –> 00:22:20,873
[adam_hill]: oh439
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[niomi_hurley]: be given an opportunity and that opportunity
be in front of you you’re worthy of440
00:22:24,580 –> 00:22:29,558
[niomi_hurley]: it it wouldn’t be there so to
sort of push in and just move into441
00:22:29,598 –> 00:22:31,101
[niomi_hurley]: that space and give it a shot442
00:22:33,441 –> 00:22:38,652
[adam_hill]: so just yeah so really it’s a
it’s an empowerment mode of of convincing yourself443
00:22:38,692 –> 00:22:42,458
[adam_hill]: you’re were the year enough and and
knowing that that you are i mean that444
00:22:42,558 –> 00:22:46,525
[adam_hill]: that that is a challenge for a
lot of leaders to to really address that445
00:22:46,585 –> 00:22:51,573
[adam_hill]: impostor syndrome and i’ve you know heard
that on on most of the interviews i’ve446
00:22:51,613 –> 00:22:55,640
[adam_hill]: done thus far is that idea that
once we get into this point we feel447
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[adam_hill]: like we’re impostors is one of our
bigger fears because hugh edwards who i had448
00:23:01,189 –> 00:23:06,738
[adam_hill]: in the podcast recently had said this
that that and it was actually very freeing449
00:23:06,799 –> 00:23:10,966
[adam_hill]: when when when he said this and
i’m going to steal it but he said450
00:23:12,087 –> 00:23:17,577
[adam_hill]: that you know we when when we’re
feeling that what really happens is we’re recognizing451
00:23:17,977 –> 00:23:22,545
[adam_hill]: that you know really no nobody you
know we’re all winging it you know we452
00:23:22,605 –> 00:23:22,705
[adam_hill]: all453
00:23:22,674 –> 00:23:22,757
[niomi_hurley]: ah454
00:23:22,765 –> 00:23:26,451
[adam_hill]: we’re all kind of winging it nobody
really knows exactly there’s no manuals to this455
00:23:26,531 –> 00:23:32,682
[adam_hill]: leadership thing and so if if we’re
in our zone of excellence clearly there’s there’s456
00:23:32,722 –> 00:23:36,508
[adam_hill]: this point where you know we’re not
pushing hard enough because we need to be457
00:23:36,548 –> 00:23:40,798
[adam_hill]: in that impostor rome in order to
if we’re not feeling that maybe we’re in458
00:23:40,838 –> 00:23:45,088
[adam_hill]: that zone of excellence i mean does
that does that resonate does that make sense459
00:23:45,852 –> 00:23:51,842
[niomi_hurley]: definitely and and i talk of into
about impostors in german you know if you’re460
00:23:51,922 –> 00:23:55,047
[niomi_hurley]: in a room you’re in a board
room or a meeting room at a sporting461
00:23:55,108 –> 00:23:59,254
[niomi_hurley]: club wherever you are and you’re in
that room you feel like you’re not worthy462
00:23:59,355 –> 00:24:01,919
[niomi_hurley]: to be there you know and what
if i make a mistake i’ll be463
00:24:01,892 –> 00:24:01,933
[adam_hill]: h464
00:24:02,480 –> 00:24:02,560
[niomi_hurley]: be465
00:24:02,559 –> 00:24:02,580
[adam_hill]: m466
00:24:02,620 –> 00:24:06,366
[niomi_hurley]: discovered that i’m not perfect you know
because there’s a lot of perfection is around467
00:24:06,446 –> 00:24:09,492
[niomi_hurley]: impostor sindri as well and a lot
of achieve468
00:24:09,586 –> 00:24:10,260
[adam_hill]: hm469
00:24:09,792 –> 00:24:14,179
[niomi_hurley]: experience that because they want everything to
be right on point but when you’re in470
00:24:14,219 –> 00:24:17,926
[niomi_hurley]: the room and you look around you
can probably talk to this out of it471
00:24:18,486 –> 00:24:21,653
[niomi_hurley]: there’s at least one person in the
room that you look at going head do472
00:24:21,733 –> 00:24:23,672
[niomi_hurley]: we get here how did473
00:24:23,610 –> 00:24:23,771
[adam_hill]: uh474
00:24:23,732 –> 00:24:25,034
[niomi_hurley]: you get in this room right475
00:24:25,809 –> 00:24:25,830
[adam_hill]: h476
00:24:25,916 –> 00:24:26,898
[niomi_hurley]: they don’t have really477
00:24:26,802 –> 00:24:26,982
[adam_hill]: right478
00:24:26,958 –> 00:24:31,004
[niomi_hurley]: a lot to bring what they say
doesn’t fit but everyone still nods they might479
00:24:31,044 –> 00:24:32,667
[niomi_hurley]: not have the skills or the experience480
00:24:32,715 –> 00:24:32,797
[adam_hill]: ah481
00:24:32,727 –> 00:24:36,797
[niomi_hurley]: but they’re there and the whole difference
between why they’re there and why you’re feeling482
00:24:36,858 –> 00:24:41,262
[niomi_hurley]: like you shouldn’t be there pretty much
as they believe they should be the only483
00:24:41,342 –> 00:24:42,003
[niomi_hurley]: reason they’re there484
00:24:42,032 –> 00:24:42,112
[adam_hill]: hm485
00:24:42,624 –> 00:24:43,825
[niomi_hurley]: because of their capabilities486
00:24:43,500 –> 00:24:44,160
[adam_hill]: yeah487
00:24:43,865 –> 00:24:47,449
[niomi_hurley]: because they’re obviously not is just purely
they believe that they should be and so488
00:24:47,750 –> 00:24:49,011
[niomi_hurley]: they sit there quite confidently489
00:24:51,611 –> 00:24:55,658
[adam_hill]: i find that very therapeutic often to
look at those folks and and say okay490
00:24:55,698 –> 00:24:58,462
[adam_hill]: if they can be here clearly i
could be here491
00:24:58,752 –> 00:25:00,042
[niomi_hurley]: yeah492
00:24:58,923 –> 00:25:04,693
[adam_hill]: because yeah i’ve definitely experienced that and
and and to the point i mean yeah493
00:25:05,113 –> 00:25:09,060
[adam_hill]: i think you’re right that confidence plays
such a big role of confidence and persistence494
00:25:09,481 –> 00:25:13,207
[adam_hill]: are highly underrated skills in this world
today and to495
00:25:13,221 –> 00:25:13,242
[niomi_hurley]: m496
00:25:13,267 –> 00:25:19,658
[adam_hill]: that end you know give into that
impostor syndrome letting that guide our decisions is497
00:25:19,758 –> 00:25:23,504
[adam_hill]: probably one of the most tragic things
that happens in our society because498
00:25:23,592 –> 00:25:23,754
[niomi_hurley]: yeah499
00:25:24,165 –> 00:25:29,858
[adam_hill]: how many great ideas have gone on
fulfilled because somebody just thought you know i’m500
00:25:29,918 –> 00:25:33,308
[adam_hill]: not the right one to do this
but i’m not the right person for this501
00:25:34,172 –> 00:25:34,316
[niomi_hurley]: yep502
00:25:34,280 –> 00:25:39,949
[adam_hill]: man it’s so i wonder and and
but for for you you you did that503
00:25:40,029 –> 00:25:45,599
[adam_hill]: because you recognized you were in that
zone of excellence and then you you had504
00:25:45,659 –> 00:25:51,709
[adam_hill]: the you you wanted to take this
leap and and you know even even though505
00:25:52,891 –> 00:25:57,058
[adam_hill]: you’d mentioned that you were the sole
bread winner for your household you know and506
00:25:57,098 –> 00:25:59,665
[adam_hill]: you were making a good ince you
ere you were doing all of these great507
00:25:59,725 –> 00:26:07,020
[adam_hill]: things and but you know you overcame
that fear and went anyway and so when508
00:26:07,080 –> 00:26:10,846
[adam_hill]: that process happened when when you made
that initial leap i kind of want to509
00:26:11,106 –> 00:26:16,336
[adam_hill]: jump around that how how was that
for the first year what was it like510
00:26:16,376 –> 00:26:19,221
[adam_hill]: within that first year did you were
there times where you were like i just511
00:26:19,281 –> 00:26:20,844
[adam_hill]: can’t do this any more where there’re
times512
00:26:20,772 –> 00:26:20,974
[niomi_hurley]: oh513
00:26:20,864 –> 00:26:22,627
[adam_hill]: where you were like this is awesome514
00:26:24,063 –> 00:26:29,712
[niomi_hurley]: definitely and i mean my husband was
working as well so i was probably the515
00:26:29,772 –> 00:26:34,460
[niomi_hurley]: primary income in so we did have
some income but it didn’t match our516
00:26:34,302 –> 00:26:35,010
[adam_hill]: hm517
00:26:34,901 –> 00:26:38,887
[niomi_hurley]: standard of ving and all of those
things that we were used to right so518
00:26:38,988 –> 00:26:44,016
[niomi_hurley]: i felt like by doing this i’m
also having my family have to make sacrifices519
00:26:44,096 –> 00:26:47,722
[niomi_hurley]: so i’m letting them down so there’s
that pressure of fear of being disliked hidden520
00:26:47,842 –> 00:26:53,392
[niomi_hurley]: in letting people down um and the
first step i took is when i came521
00:26:53,452 –> 00:26:56,757
[niomi_hurley]: out i had established myself as i
said with a whole heap of credibility with522
00:26:56,817 –> 00:27:02,266
[niomi_hurley]: a range of people in different industries
mainly mining industries i was working in the523
00:27:02,306 –> 00:27:07,735
[niomi_hurley]: transport industry and i was on a
transport industry association i had heaps of contact524
00:27:08,196 –> 00:27:11,361
[niomi_hurley]: so i did what you do right
ask your friends for help what they say525
00:27:11,542 –> 00:27:14,126
[niomi_hurley]: you first go into business so i
emailed everyone526
00:27:14,000 –> 00:27:14,182
[adam_hill]: right527
00:27:14,447 –> 00:27:17,311
[niomi_hurley]: told them what i was doing all
this sort of stuff i got all these528
00:27:17,412 –> 00:27:23,121
[niomi_hurley]: emails going you’ll be awesome at that
men have no no hesitation of knowing that529
00:27:23,161 –> 00:27:27,974
[niomi_hurley]: you succeed no one person engaged me
one person went to work530
00:27:27,905 –> 00:27:27,946
[adam_hill]: m531
00:27:28,495 –> 00:27:28,775
[niomi_hurley]: and that532
00:27:28,779 –> 00:27:28,800
[adam_hill]: m533
00:27:28,835 –> 00:27:32,802
[niomi_hurley]: was just a real slap in the
face of oh i think this is going534
00:27:32,842 –> 00:27:35,927
[niomi_hurley]: to be easy so that was my
first thing i had to overcome that i’m535
00:27:35,967 –> 00:27:39,563
[niomi_hurley]: going to have to create this it’s
not going to be given to me um536
00:27:40,005 –> 00:27:40,680
[adam_hill]: hm537
00:27:40,611 –> 00:27:45,560
[niomi_hurley]: m did i think about getting a
day job probably in the early days probably538
00:27:45,600 –> 00:27:48,064
[niomi_hurley]: about once a month i thought i’ve
done the right539
00:27:48,030 –> 00:27:48,271
[adam_hill]: yeah540
00:27:48,124 –> 00:27:50,127
[niomi_hurley]: thing and then541
00:27:50,060 –> 00:27:50,221
[adam_hill]: yeah542
00:27:50,247 –> 00:27:54,434
[niomi_hurley]: as i went searching through sklooking for
what was advertised i’m looking at the job543
00:27:54,494 –> 00:27:59,240
[niomi_hurley]: going now what are you doing and
i would push it down so yeah i544
00:27:59,360 –> 00:28:05,794
[niomi_hurley]: have the start was really high high
and really low lows over time that itself545
00:28:06,054 –> 00:28:11,298
[niomi_hurley]: has given me the tools and the
strength and the self believe to now when546
00:28:11,358 –> 00:28:15,662
[niomi_hurley]: i’m facing it low i actually can
snap myself out of it go hang on547
00:28:15,762 –> 00:28:18,945
[niomi_hurley]: take a breath you’ve been here before
you don’t need to go that you’ve got548
00:28:18,965 –> 00:28:23,249
[niomi_hurley]: a lot to give so it’s i
value those moments because that’s what strength in549
00:28:23,309 –> 00:28:25,591
[niomi_hurley]: the muscle you know to get me
to where i am now550
00:28:25,692 –> 00:28:31,446
[adam_hill]: hm m yeah that’s and that’s that’s
huge for for people that might be listening551
00:28:31,506 –> 00:28:34,591
[adam_hill]: thinking they got they have to take
that leap they want to take that leap552
00:28:34,631 –> 00:28:37,897
[adam_hill]: but i know that there’s there’s a
lot of people out there that have these553
00:28:37,977 –> 00:28:42,745
[adam_hill]: ideas have these have s mission driven
you know messages that they want to share554
00:28:42,805 –> 00:28:47,753
[adam_hill]: with the world that but they’re afraid
to because they’re in that safe and secure555
00:28:47,873 –> 00:28:53,182
[adam_hill]: spot and i just i want i
want them to hear stories yours because it’s556
00:28:53,242 –> 00:28:58,010
[adam_hill]: very it’s very important that you know
they understand that that be those beginning stages557
00:28:58,070 –> 00:29:03,499
[adam_hill]: yes they’re very lonely they’re very you
know they’re very empty it’s shouting into the558
00:29:03,640 –> 00:29:09,143
[adam_hill]: and they’re shouting you know into the
empty void but eventually and at some point559
00:29:09,624 –> 00:29:11,367
[adam_hill]: it starts to trickle in and you
start560
00:29:11,413 –> 00:29:11,577
[niomi_hurley]: yes561
00:29:11,427 –> 00:29:15,574
[adam_hill]: to experience that success and and i
was so fortunate to see562
00:29:15,522 –> 00:29:15,542
[niomi_hurley]: m563
00:29:16,335 –> 00:29:20,302
[adam_hill]: your growth and your trajectory since the
very beginning and that’s that was that was564
00:29:20,382 –> 00:29:24,328
[adam_hill]: so great because just watching you have
this great idea of what you wanted to565
00:29:24,389 –> 00:29:30,799
[adam_hill]: achieve leaving you your job jumping out
into this on you know jumping out into566
00:29:30,859 –> 00:29:34,726
[adam_hill]: this world of the unknown and then
building it and what you have and and567
00:29:35,968 –> 00:29:39,814
[adam_hill]: seeing your success forms grow as well
i’ve been on a on a couple of568
00:29:39,854 –> 00:29:45,424
[adam_hill]: your your success forms which are which
are these great full day events you know569
00:29:45,584 –> 00:29:50,572
[adam_hill]: where you bring in speakers and you
share um it’s been neat to see those570
00:29:50,632 –> 00:29:51,774
[adam_hill]: grow too can you571
00:29:51,782 –> 00:29:51,944
[niomi_hurley]: yeah572
00:29:51,854 –> 00:29:54,980
[adam_hill]: tell us about how those are doing
and what’s coming with those m573
00:29:55,392 –> 00:30:01,442
[niomi_hurley]: yeah so i am i really love
those one of my other other places i574
00:30:01,502 –> 00:30:06,571
[niomi_hurley]: mean my genius is getting people together
collaborating referals all those sorts of things you575
00:30:06,611 –> 00:30:09,616
[niomi_hurley]: know seeing people grow and it doesn’t
mean they have to sign up with me576
00:30:09,736 –> 00:30:12,441
[niomi_hurley]: to do it you know it’s connecting
them with the right people577
00:30:12,758 –> 00:30:13,290
[adam_hill]: hm578
00:30:12,921 –> 00:30:17,449
[niomi_hurley]: and that’s what the success for ems
do and i’m able to run them with579
00:30:17,569 –> 00:30:21,936
[niomi_hurley]: technology thank you getting you know speakers
in from all over the world such as580
00:30:21,977 –> 00:30:28,347
[niomi_hurley]: yourself and stream online and also have
it in person so it was a little581
00:30:28,367 –> 00:30:32,795
[niomi_hurley]: bit again here it was a little
bit challenging when covid came to western australia582
00:30:32,875 –> 00:30:36,000
[niomi_hurley]: so we were right behind the rest
of the world and we were kind of583
00:30:36,080 –> 00:30:38,905
[niomi_hurley]: in a little bubble we even cut
our borders off from the rest of the584
00:30:38,945 –> 00:30:42,411
[niomi_hurley]: country to keep us safe so when
they open those585
00:30:42,414 –> 00:30:42,535
[adam_hill]: it586
00:30:42,491 –> 00:30:46,557
[niomi_hurley]: borders there was the mask mandate you
know all that sort of stuff coming just587
00:30:46,658 –> 00:30:48,801
[niomi_hurley]: as i was running a form so588
00:30:49,362 –> 00:30:49,564
[adam_hill]: right589
00:30:49,482 –> 00:30:51,646
[niomi_hurley]: that that taught me to piet590
00:30:51,690 –> 00:30:52,620
[adam_hill]: yeah591
00:30:51,766 –> 00:30:56,073
[niomi_hurley]: right because i didn’t have enough people
in the room to me really viable so592
00:30:56,274 –> 00:31:01,342
[niomi_hurley]: i thought why don’t i stream online
as well and you know there was there’s593
00:31:01,542 –> 00:31:05,108
[niomi_hurley]: mixed people have their own self belief
systems and i think we’re all entitled to594
00:31:05,128 –> 00:31:09,576
[niomi_hurley]: that so there was some people that
didn’t want to follow the mandates that were595
00:31:09,616 –> 00:31:13,282
[niomi_hurley]: given by the government for their own
personal reasons and so i thought that would596
00:31:13,442 –> 00:31:19,372
[niomi_hurley]: give an opportunity for inclusivity ter everyone
could attend but i suppose597
00:31:19,140 –> 00:31:19,160
[adam_hill]: m598
00:31:19,432 –> 00:31:22,477
[niomi_hurley]: that’s where that shifting that focus like
i went in i didn’t get the ticket599
00:31:22,578 –> 00:31:26,284
[niomi_hurley]: sales i could have sat there and
really felt sorry for myself which i did600
00:31:26,344 –> 00:31:29,649
[niomi_hurley]: a tiny bit if i’m being honest
but then it came the time to pull601
00:31:29,676 –> 00:31:30,390
[adam_hill]: hm602
00:31:29,689 –> 00:31:34,198
[niomi_hurley]: it out what are you going to
and when you move out of that that603
00:31:34,599 –> 00:31:39,573
[niomi_hurley]: place of a catastrophe supposed for lack
of a better word you get clarity you604
00:31:39,633 –> 00:31:44,445
[niomi_hurley]: come up with different ideas you can
think differently and so we’ve got another one605
00:31:44,605 –> 00:31:48,632
[niomi_hurley]: actually coming up early in the new
year so thank you adam for putting your606
00:31:48,672 –> 00:31:50,635
[niomi_hurley]: hand up again we should be fantastic607
00:31:50,790 –> 00:31:51,092
[adam_hill]: yeah608
00:31:50,955 –> 00:31:53,960
[niomi_hurley]: and i hope to run them at
least a couple of times a year because609
00:31:54,281 –> 00:32:00,134
[niomi_hurley]: it all it gives people access to
the kind of people like us that are610
00:32:00,194 –> 00:32:05,074
[niomi_hurley]: able to share at a minimal expense
now when someone gets611
00:32:05,070 –> 00:32:05,214
[adam_hill]: yeah612
00:32:05,214 –> 00:32:09,381
[niomi_hurley]: really good at what they do obviously
their value financially grows up as well and613
00:32:09,442 –> 00:32:13,488
[niomi_hurley]: some people can’t access those services so
i feel like in that forum space614
00:32:13,684 –> 00:32:13,704
[adam_hill]: i615
00:32:13,949 –> 00:32:17,919
[niomi_hurley]: it gives all people of back rounds
of all clients to be able to access616
00:32:18,662 –> 00:32:21,230
[niomi_hurley]: those quality people and their messages617
00:32:22,160 –> 00:32:28,458
[adam_hill]: yeah yeah that and and that’s what
i’ve found too watching those is you’re bringing618
00:32:28,638 –> 00:32:33,166
[adam_hill]: so much into that it’s like it’s
like a wholistic whole life you know experience619
00:32:33,266 –> 00:32:37,353
[adam_hill]: and and i really i really enjoyed
it i rememe that that covid experience how620
00:32:37,493 –> 00:32:42,822
[adam_hill]: how quickly you know it hit and
you scrambled but you pulled it off and621
00:32:42,882 –> 00:32:47,590
[adam_hill]: that that’s that’s a testament i think
really to a lot of the bus this622
00:32:47,650 –> 00:32:50,895
[adam_hill]: is during that time a lot of
people were complaining and623
00:32:51,083 –> 00:32:51,228
[niomi_hurley]: yeah624
00:32:52,137 –> 00:32:58,227
[adam_hill]: i get it you know when things
threaten your business you know it stinks when625
00:32:58,308 –> 00:33:04,177
[adam_hill]: things threaten our livelihood it stinks but
those who were successful adapted and and i626
00:33:04,217 –> 00:33:08,344
[adam_hill]: think those who thrive thrive adapted which
is exactly627
00:33:08,014 –> 00:33:08,178
[niomi_hurley]: yeah628
00:33:08,384 –> 00:33:10,087
[adam_hill]: what you did and then your629
00:33:10,019 –> 00:33:10,182
[niomi_hurley]: yeah630
00:33:10,187 –> 00:33:13,872
[adam_hill]: next event became even more cessful because
you were you know you were able to631
00:33:13,973 –> 00:33:18,759
[adam_hill]: do virtual and in person that time
again and it worked out really well632
00:33:20,013 –> 00:33:24,406
[niomi_hurley]: and i remember one event last year
i had all planned and all had ready633
00:33:24,727 –> 00:33:28,966
[niomi_hurley]: and actually got covid so we had
restrictions around leaving634
00:33:28,980 –> 00:33:29,286
[adam_hill]: oh635
00:33:29,006 –> 00:33:31,630
[niomi_hurley]: the house and i had to pivot
again and go okay this one is just636
00:33:31,690 –> 00:33:34,235
[niomi_hurley]: purely online you know i can’t do
it in person so637
00:33:34,610 –> 00:33:34,791
[adam_hill]: right638
00:33:35,677 –> 00:33:42,830
[niomi_hurley]: yeah’sit’s understanding though that if you’re in
a place where it does get you down639
00:33:43,682 –> 00:33:45,147
[niomi_hurley]: it’s okay because it’s meant to640
00:33:45,408 –> 00:33:46,080
[adam_hill]: hm641
00:33:45,830 –> 00:33:50,776
[niomi_hurley]: because growth doesn’t come from a place
of comfort it comes from being uncomfortable642
00:33:50,923 –> 00:33:51,630
[adam_hill]: hm643
00:33:51,598 –> 00:33:58,513
[niomi_hurley]: and you know it’s just not unpacking
and staying there know making sure and it’s644
00:33:58,593 –> 00:34:02,617
[niomi_hurley]: always got something to teach us and
i tell this especially to my kids you645
00:34:02,657 –> 00:34:06,620
[niomi_hurley]: know if they’re feeling sad or they’re
feeling like something there feel it what’s it646
00:34:06,680 –> 00:34:10,626
[niomi_hurley]: trying to teach you what’s it trying
to give you and then there comes a647
00:34:10,706 –> 00:34:13,851
[niomi_hurley]: point where i’m like all right come
on this is getting you know a bit648
00:34:13,931 –> 00:34:16,155
[niomi_hurley]: rough now how are we going to
change it how are you going to re649
00:34:16,275 –> 00:34:21,337
[niomi_hurley]: frame and move forward but some of
the clients that i see unfortunately we had650
00:34:21,397 –> 00:34:22,444
[niomi_hurley]: a generation where we wouldn’t651
00:34:22,290 –> 00:34:22,596
[adam_hill]: oh652
00:34:22,484 –> 00:34:25,815
[niomi_hurley]: let people feel so we pushed everything
down653
00:34:25,572 –> 00:34:26,580
[adam_hill]: hm654
00:34:26,235 –> 00:34:31,464
[niomi_hurley]: and then it becomes stuck in energy
bodies a body systems and re framing in655
00:34:31,524 –> 00:34:35,310
[niomi_hurley]: the brain all those sorts of things
then we switched and then we have a656
00:34:35,350 –> 00:34:39,799
[niomi_hurley]: generation we’re saying feel feel it’s okay
to feel these people don’t know how to657
00:34:39,879 –> 00:34:42,984
[niomi_hurley]: turn off their feelings and then we
have a space658
00:34:42,832 –> 00:34:42,852
[adam_hill]: h659
00:34:43,044 –> 00:34:44,086
[niomi_hurley]: where we’ve got increased660
00:34:43,779 –> 00:34:43,800
[adam_hill]: m661
00:34:44,146 –> 00:34:48,733
[niomi_hurley]: mental health issues and people that have
limited coping skills and able to adapt to662
00:34:48,814 –> 00:34:53,762
[niomi_hurley]: life and i’m hoping that from the
influence of myself and other leaders like you663
00:34:54,083 –> 00:34:57,712
[niomi_hurley]: in this environment that we can help
shift that a little bit more for the664
00:34:57,772 –> 00:35:02,772
[niomi_hurley]: next generation to go how about we
can bind those and get a balance how665
00:35:02,792 –> 00:35:03,033
[niomi_hurley]: about we666
00:35:03,130 –> 00:35:03,271
[adam_hill]: yeah667
00:35:03,193 –> 00:35:03,473
[niomi_hurley]: feel668
00:35:03,814 –> 00:35:03,995
[adam_hill]: yeah669
00:35:04,054 –> 00:35:08,241
[niomi_hurley]: and be there but then move on
and create our capabilities and get past that670
00:35:10,520 –> 00:35:15,287
[adam_hill]: that’s that’s that’s really great advice and
that’s a great way to look at how671
00:35:15,368 –> 00:35:19,294
[adam_hill]: to how to do that and i’d
never heard it put that way before and672
00:35:19,354 –> 00:35:23,782
[adam_hill]: it’s really profound the way you know
you mentioned that we have a generation that673
00:35:23,982 –> 00:35:26,166
[adam_hill]: was trained not to feel and674
00:35:26,004 –> 00:35:26,107
[niomi_hurley]: ah675
00:35:26,366 –> 00:35:30,433
[adam_hill]: you know i think being a product
of that generation especially in our younger age676
00:35:30,493 –> 00:35:33,578
[adam_hill]: it’s like all righ well that led
to a lot of pent up anxiety and677
00:35:33,618 –> 00:35:37,685
[adam_hill]: i remember how that hit me when
i was when i was in college um678
00:35:37,965 –> 00:35:40,670
[adam_hill]: it leads to abuse and things like
that i679
00:35:40,712 –> 00:35:41,562
[niomi_hurley]: yeah680
00:35:40,750 –> 00:35:44,416
[adam_hill]: can relate with you know my kids
and how how they feel and feel and681
00:35:44,476 –> 00:35:49,185
[adam_hill]: feel it’s a lot but so that
balance is really important and needed there so682
00:35:49,465 –> 00:35:55,757
[adam_hill]: i think yeah you’re finding that balance
within the the leadership generation as well is683
00:35:55,777 –> 00:35:57,373
[adam_hill]: gonna be important yeah684
00:35:57,242 –> 00:36:02,050
[niomi_hurley]: yeah and i mean most of the
leaders now except for the up and coming685
00:36:02,290 –> 00:36:05,776
[niomi_hurley]: great inspiring leaders which i love working
with but at a686
00:36:05,832 –> 00:36:05,853
[adam_hill]: m687
00:36:05,916 –> 00:36:10,905
[niomi_hurley]: corporate a high corporate level let’s admit
it ajority are of that middle age sort688
00:36:10,965 –> 00:36:14,651
[niomi_hurley]: of realm so you know they’re the
kids that were brought up i’ll give you689
00:36:14,731 –> 00:36:17,416
[niomi_hurley]: something to cry for you know like
you can’t690
00:36:17,280 –> 00:36:18,660
[adam_hill]: yeah691
00:36:17,456 –> 00:36:18,698
[niomi_hurley]: feel emotions and the only692
00:36:18,721 –> 00:36:18,885
[adam_hill]: right693
00:36:18,738 –> 00:36:22,264
[niomi_hurley]: reason our parents did that is because
they didn’t now how to feel emotion so694
00:36:22,344 –> 00:36:26,932
[niomi_hurley]: they put them in an uncomfortable space
you know but actually giving695
00:36:26,875 –> 00:36:26,916
[adam_hill]: h696
00:36:27,032 –> 00:36:27,713
[niomi_hurley]: space for our697
00:36:27,669 –> 00:36:27,690
[adam_hill]: m698
00:36:27,773 –> 00:36:31,639
[niomi_hurley]: kids to be able to feel and
even the people we work with giving them699
00:36:31,659 –> 00:36:36,052
[niomi_hurley]: that space to feel then giving them
the tools to actually create their resilience and700
00:36:36,313 –> 00:36:42,205
[niomi_hurley]: and go back to their coping skills
is just gold i think and i think701
00:36:42,285 –> 00:36:43,086
[niomi_hurley]: that’s part of the702
00:36:43,096 –> 00:36:43,116
[adam_hill]: h703
00:36:43,166 –> 00:36:43,787
[niomi_hurley]: evolution of704
00:36:43,869 –> 00:36:43,890
[adam_hill]: m705
00:36:44,168 –> 00:36:46,451
[niomi_hurley]: humans as well that we go through
all that you know706
00:36:48,380 –> 00:36:52,967
[adam_hill]: yeah yeah i love i love that
space and tools give them the space but707
00:36:53,027 –> 00:36:54,730
[adam_hill]: give them the tools not either708
00:36:54,493 –> 00:36:54,636
[niomi_hurley]: yeah709
00:36:54,890 –> 00:36:57,575
[adam_hill]: or not neither but both i love710
00:36:57,471 –> 00:36:57,492
[niomi_hurley]: m711
00:36:57,635 –> 00:37:03,910
[adam_hill]: that yeah so and so what’s next
for naomi what’s next for you what are712
00:37:03,970 –> 00:37:04,090
[adam_hill]: you713
00:37:04,242 –> 00:37:05,301
[niomi_hurley]: yeah714
00:37:04,431 –> 00:37:06,758
[adam_hill]: working on now what’s what’s coming up
the pike715
00:37:07,883 –> 00:37:12,170
[niomi_hurley]: um so i take a deep breath
in again because everything that you think of716
00:37:12,351 –> 00:37:15,436
[niomi_hurley]: comes with all of that fear but
look what717
00:37:15,521 –> 00:37:15,826
[adam_hill]: oh yeah718
00:37:15,796 –> 00:37:20,625
[niomi_hurley]: what’s next for me is my mind
is was going on on how i can719
00:37:20,745 –> 00:37:25,753
[niomi_hurley]: serve and so i have i’ve got
some really great leadership programs i’m working with720
00:37:25,793 –> 00:37:30,681
[niomi_hurley]: the business with locally which is just
really great and it’s actually going in on721
00:37:31,042 –> 00:37:37,288
[niomi_hurley]: giving the team training but actually doing
some subconscious programming along the way right like722
00:37:38,029 –> 00:37:39,011
[niomi_hurley]: they’re dealing with difficult723
00:37:38,682 –> 00:37:38,702
[adam_hill]: m724
00:37:39,091 –> 00:37:43,758
[niomi_hurley]: people course i put together people come
into that and most of that course is725
00:37:43,879 –> 00:37:47,838
[niomi_hurley]: okay so why do they trigger you
what’s going on within you and so726
00:37:47,875 –> 00:37:47,896
[adam_hill]: h727
00:37:47,918 –> 00:37:48,681
[niomi_hurley]: it’s changing the728
00:37:48,669 –> 00:37:48,690
[adam_hill]: m729
00:37:48,741 –> 00:37:52,452
[niomi_hurley]: face of people that when they go
into the environment is less about the people730
00:37:52,532 –> 00:37:56,757
[niomi_hurley]: around them and more about how they
present how they come into the world and731
00:37:56,838 –> 00:38:01,534
[niomi_hurley]: so then they can actually level up
their leadership they’re going through all of the732
00:38:01,654 –> 00:38:02,255
[niomi_hurley]: psychological733
00:38:01,690 –> 00:38:01,851
[adam_hill]: yeah734
00:38:02,476 –> 00:38:07,083
[niomi_hurley]: aspects as well of conformity why people
perform the way they’re doing groups all of735
00:38:07,143 –> 00:38:11,010
[niomi_hurley]: that to give their leaders some sort
of insight into their teams and how they736
00:38:11,070 –> 00:38:11,971
[niomi_hurley]: can get the best out of737
00:38:12,300 –> 00:38:12,463
[adam_hill]: oh738
00:38:12,933 –> 00:38:17,380
[niomi_hurley]: um and when i first started my
business i wanted to serve the world i739
00:38:17,460 –> 00:38:21,066
[niomi_hurley]: had no niche i was i didn’t
want a niche because that would exclude people740
00:38:21,407 –> 00:38:26,816
[niomi_hurley]: but over time i’ve really found my
passion my skill set really thrives when i’m741
00:38:26,856 –> 00:38:29,741
[niomi_hurley]: working with leaders and working in the
corporate world still742
00:38:29,521 –> 00:38:29,602
[adam_hill]: oh743
00:38:29,921 –> 00:38:33,327
[niomi_hurley]: so you can take the girl out
of corporate you can’t take corporate out of744
00:38:33,367 –> 00:38:34,689
[niomi_hurley]: the girl right so745
00:38:35,922 –> 00:38:36,126
[adam_hill]: right746
00:38:36,152 –> 00:38:37,253
[niomi_hurley]: i’m actually developing747
00:38:36,870 –> 00:38:36,890
[adam_hill]: m748
00:38:37,814 –> 00:38:41,941
[niomi_hurley]: some programs at the moment which will
be like a membership again for people that749
00:38:42,001 –> 00:38:45,868
[niomi_hurley]: have some limited affordability so they can
still access some of the information that i750
00:38:45,968 –> 00:38:51,237
[niomi_hurley]: share forms a still go you go
ahead ve got some online trainings and things751
00:38:51,277 –> 00:38:56,806
[niomi_hurley]: that i’m doing and also the individual
services because some of the people that i’m752
00:38:57,347 –> 00:39:01,414
[niomi_hurley]: involved with corporately then go well i
want to get rid of subconscious programming753
00:39:00,870 –> 00:39:01,151
[adam_hill]: oh754
00:39:01,614 –> 00:39:07,163
[niomi_hurley]: which is where the ability for one
or one sessions comes in and the ability755
00:39:06,840 –> 00:39:07,770
[adam_hill]: oh756
00:39:07,263 –> 00:39:09,908
[niomi_hurley]: to do that as well over zoom
or in person757
00:39:09,810 –> 00:39:10,052
[adam_hill]: oh758
00:39:09,988 –> 00:39:10,950
[niomi_hurley]: is great because759
00:39:11,328 –> 00:39:11,490
[adam_hill]: yeah760
00:39:11,450 –> 00:39:14,239
[niomi_hurley]: it doesn’t limit the people that i
can help which is just awesome761
00:39:16,391 –> 00:39:19,716
[adam_hill]: yeah well that’s fantastic and and i
know you kind of you mentioned in there762
00:39:19,937 –> 00:39:23,983
[adam_hill]: i heard it loud and clear but
i know you kind of glossed over it763
00:39:24,043 –> 00:39:26,888
[adam_hill]: was the dealing with difficult people course
i764
00:39:27,032 –> 00:39:27,214
[niomi_hurley]: yeah765
00:39:27,048 –> 00:39:28,951
[adam_hill]: love that idea so can you766
00:39:28,872 –> 00:39:29,174
[niomi_hurley]: oh767
00:39:29,031 –> 00:39:31,314
[adam_hill]: can you just basically just give a
quick shout768
00:39:31,295 –> 00:39:31,375
[niomi_hurley]: ah769
00:39:31,394 –> 00:39:34,338
[adam_hill]: out on that because i think there’s
a lot of leaders that can benefit from770
00:39:34,418 –> 00:39:34,478
[adam_hill]: it771
00:39:35,663 –> 00:39:40,531
[niomi_hurley]: it’s because we’re going to the place
we don’t deal with this is the thing772
00:39:40,731 –> 00:39:44,738
[niomi_hurley]: leaders don’t deal with difficult people a
lot of the time not773
00:39:44,684 –> 00:39:44,704
[adam_hill]: h774
00:39:44,798 –> 00:39:45,619
[niomi_hurley]: saying everyone but775
00:39:45,879 –> 00:39:45,900
[adam_hill]: m776
00:39:46,020 –> 00:39:50,788
[niomi_hurley]: and then that career it’s people in
the workplace that aren’t performing that then pieces777
00:39:50,888 –> 00:39:54,414
[niomi_hurley]: off the people that are performing and
then you lose talent or you just lose778
00:39:54,454 –> 00:39:56,998
[niomi_hurley]: productivity right so the779
00:39:56,941 –> 00:39:57,103
[adam_hill]: yeah780
00:39:57,078 –> 00:39:57,759
[niomi_hurley]: dealing with difficult781
00:39:57,488 –> 00:39:57,671
[adam_hill]: right782
00:39:57,819 –> 00:40:04,891
[niomi_hurley]: people course goes in more looking internally
so it looks at personality testing what personality783
00:40:04,931 –> 00:40:07,796
[niomi_hurley]: they come out i go through tony
robin’s784
00:40:07,673 –> 00:40:07,713
[adam_hill]: h785
00:40:08,157 –> 00:40:08,297
[niomi_hurley]: six786
00:40:08,379 –> 00:40:08,400
[adam_hill]: m787
00:40:08,417 –> 00:40:13,967
[niomi_hurley]: cortes certainty uncertainty growth all of those
sorts of things to help them get an788
00:40:14,027 –> 00:40:18,475
[niomi_hurley]: understanding of why they come in and
present the way they do i also talk789
00:40:18,555 –> 00:40:25,417
[niomi_hurley]: about the four core roles that maria
here teachers which is the sick one the790
00:40:25,497 –> 00:40:30,845
[niomi_hurley]: rebel the achiever or the care so
people are the one or a combination791
00:40:30,641 –> 00:40:30,702
[adam_hill]: hm792
00:40:30,905 –> 00:40:35,513
[niomi_hurley]: of those and understanding why you’re one
of those and why subconsciously you’re wide that793
00:40:35,573 –> 00:40:40,481
[niomi_hurley]: way can then also help you understand
why other people are wide that way right794
00:40:40,802 –> 00:40:44,714
[niomi_hurley]: they come they don’t treat you and
i like they’re not trying to795
00:40:44,730 –> 00:40:44,893
[adam_hill]: yeah796
00:40:44,754 –> 00:40:49,762
[niomi_hurley]: compete with me they can’t help it
that’s their subconscious wiring you know and so797
00:40:49,902 –> 00:40:53,829
[niomi_hurley]: moving through that space and then going
into okay hear some techniques that you can798
00:40:53,929 –> 00:40:59,558
[niomi_hurley]: help also now do you with people
of all of those different traits and when799
00:40:59,598 –> 00:41:00,720
[niomi_hurley]: they’re displaying those needs800
00:41:00,694 –> 00:41:00,714
[adam_hill]: m801
00:41:00,941 –> 00:41:02,103
[niomi_hurley]: so it’s really802
00:41:01,869 –> 00:41:01,890
[adam_hill]: m803
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[niomi_hurley]: come i sell them what they want
give them what they need of course if804
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[niomi_hurley]: i’m being honest805
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[adam_hill]: yeah well that’s why i wanted to
touch on it because i know that that’s806
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[adam_hill]: a lot of what’s ignored in in
the corporate world is looking at you know807
00:41:20,267 –> 00:41:25,035
[adam_hill]: that the folks i mean you said
it so perfectly the fact that we’re tolerating808
00:41:25,616 –> 00:41:29,002
[adam_hill]: maybe the people that we shouldn’t be
tolerating at the expense of the people that809
00:41:29,162 –> 00:41:31,827
[adam_hill]: are really really building the company and810
00:41:31,762 –> 00:41:31,944
[niomi_hurley]: yeah811
00:41:32,247 –> 00:41:35,813
[adam_hill]: we’re going to lose that talent we
don’t address that and we don’t nip that812
00:41:35,953 –> 00:41:40,361
[adam_hill]: stuff in the butt so dealing with
difficult people i think that there’s a ton813
00:41:40,581 –> 00:41:45,029
[adam_hill]: of value in of course just like
that so and they can find that at814
00:41:45,089 –> 00:41:46,034
[adam_hill]: your website815
00:41:46,742 –> 00:41:51,530
[niomi_hurley]: yes if they go to get up
and grow consulting dot com dot they’ll find816
00:41:51,590 –> 00:41:55,957
[niomi_hurley]: a whole range of courses that i
do and i think traditionally training in leadership817
00:41:56,378 –> 00:42:01,506
[niomi_hurley]: when we talk about has been ditonally
around like the my brigs personality testing or818
00:42:01,647 –> 00:42:03,350
[niomi_hurley]: actually which i do touch on819
00:42:03,425 –> 00:42:04,020
[adam_hill]: hm820
00:42:03,690 –> 00:42:09,460
[niomi_hurley]: all personality testing but we’re never actually
told that that’s not fixed right and i821
00:42:09,540 –> 00:42:10,682
[niomi_hurley]: think as well our genera a822
00:42:10,715 –> 00:42:10,735
[adam_hill]: h823
00:42:11,203 –> 00:42:11,623
[niomi_hurley]: lot of us824
00:42:11,529 –> 00:42:11,550
[adam_hill]: m825
00:42:11,683 –> 00:42:15,450
[niomi_hurley]: were raised in this fixed mind set
environment where you are who you are you826
00:42:15,570 –> 00:42:19,176
[niomi_hurley]: do what you do you get a
job but shifting into more of that growth827
00:42:19,256 –> 00:42:24,067
[niomi_hurley]: mind set which is covered in this
course as well actually then tells us that828
00:42:24,168 –> 00:42:28,746
[niomi_hurley]: this isn’t who we are this is
who we’re programme to be right now everything829
00:42:28,786 –> 00:42:29,290
[niomi_hurley]: is valuable830
00:42:29,473 –> 00:42:30,180
[adam_hill]: hm831
00:42:29,531 –> 00:42:30,578
[niomi_hurley]: everything s changeable832
00:42:33,140 –> 00:42:40,152
[adam_hill]: we we’re always fluid always changing i
love that so that’s a t’sit’sit’s a it’s833
00:42:40,232 –> 00:42:44,138
[adam_hill]: great work that you’re doing here because
you’re getting to the root of of you834
00:42:44,198 –> 00:42:50,589
[adam_hill]: know truly ship which is personalities managing
personalities managing our own personalities managing our feelings835
00:42:50,930 –> 00:42:55,377
[adam_hill]: managing all of our fears and all
of those things that seem to be a836
00:42:55,437 –> 00:42:59,364
[adam_hill]: limited within our minds actually become an
asset and you’re837
00:42:59,243 –> 00:42:59,405
[niomi_hurley]: yeah838
00:42:59,404 –> 00:43:02,789
[adam_hill]: turning them into an asset i think
you’re doing wonderful work naomi and i hope839
00:43:02,850 –> 00:43:07,137
[adam_hill]: people look you up like like you
said they can find you get up and840
00:43:07,177 –> 00:43:10,665
[adam_hill]: grow consulting dot com dot a you
and841
00:43:10,502 –> 00:43:10,687
[niomi_hurley]: yes842
00:43:10,885 –> 00:43:13,412
[adam_hill]: any anywhere else that they can find
you any any843
00:43:14,522 –> 00:43:14,805
[niomi_hurley]: yeh844
00:43:14,596 –> 00:43:15,518
[adam_hill]: where else can people find you845
00:43:16,062 –> 00:43:20,709
[niomi_hurley]: i’ve got profiles on socials i’ve got
a company and a personal profile linked in846
00:43:20,850 –> 00:43:24,716
[niomi_hurley]: love for you to reach out and
connect always happy to connect with some like847
00:43:24,776 –> 00:43:29,407
[niomi_hurley]: minded people i love that and instagram
and facebook well if people are using those848
00:43:29,487 –> 00:43:30,149
[niomi_hurley]: platforms too849
00:43:32,630 –> 00:43:36,556
[adam_hill]: awesome well thank you so much for
being here naomi this was this was excellent850
00:43:36,597 –> 00:43:40,964
[adam_hill]: and there’s a ton of value here
and i wish you so much success in851
00:43:41,004 –> 00:43:44,049
[adam_hill]: what you’re doing and based on what
i’ve seen thus far you’re going to you’re852
00:43:44,069 –> 00:43:46,679
[adam_hill]: going to hit moon and you’re going
to help a lot of people along the853
00:43:46,719 –> 00:43:48,587
[adam_hill]: way so thank you so much for
joining us854
00:43:49,422 –> 00:43:54,126
[niomi_hurley]: thank you adam thank you for not
only having me on but also being a855
00:43:54,206 –> 00:43:57,849
[niomi_hurley]: fan you know and a support and
someone i can reach out to i really856
00:43:57,889 –> 00:43:59,551
[niomi_hurley]: appreciate you and i value thank you857
00:44:01,770 –> 00:44:04,758
[adam_hill]: any time thank you everyone for tuning
in we’ll catch you next time