Superpower Your Relationships Through Connection -

Tired of the same old conversations and feeling disconnected from your partner?

In this episode, Adam Hill shares his firshand experience of how implementing a simple framework completely transformed his marriage of 25+ years.

Learn how regular “Level 10” meetings (adapted from the Entrepreneurial Operating System or EOS), annual visioning sessions, and a focus on open communication can help build unbreakable trust, intimacy and togetherness that will stand the test of time.

A few small changes can make a huge difference in your relationship!

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

The importance of shared reflection and regular check-ins
Running a family is like running a business
Weekly Level 10 meetings
Two ways of unproductive communication in relationships
The balance between fake harmony and open criticism

Episode Highlights:

[05:22] The power of weekly relationship check-ins

By dedicating time each week to share what happened, identify concerns, and work together towards resolutions, Adam and his wife significantly enhanced the quality of their relationship.

[06:32] Running a family is like running a business

You’re not just in a relationship with your spouse or partner, you also have to manage finances or human resources (ex. raising kids) just like running a business.

[08:41] Implementing weekly Level 10 meetings

The weekly Level 10 meetings allows you to share good news, review relationship metrics, discuss highlights and priorities, and identify, discuss, and solve issues.

[13:14] Avoid unproductive communication over important relationship matters

There are two unproductive ways of communicating over important issues: either suppressing problems and building resentment, or unexpectedly bringing things up during fights.

[14:33] Find the balance between fake harmony and open criticism

In a state of artificial harmony, issues are suppressed to avoid conflict, building resentment and passive aggression. On the other side of the spectrum is mean-spiritedness. The goal is to have honest yet healthy discussions that seek the middle ground of truth.

[15:30] How to bring up issues during relationship meetings

The issues should not be impromptu but rather both partners should have access to a prepared list of topics they are ready to address in a structured manner.

[17:08] Conducting annual vision sessions

Adam and his wife also conduct annual vision and goal-setting sessions after the holidays to define values, envision 10-year goals, determine 3-year priorities and plans for the upcoming year and quarter.

Resources Mentioned:

Traction by Gino Wickman

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Transcript

[05:22] The power of weekly relationship check-ins
By dedicating time each week to share what happened, identify concerns, and work together towards resolutions, Adam and his wife significantly enhanced the quality of their relationship.
[06:32] Running a family is like running a business
You’re not just in a relationship with your spouse or partner, you also have to manage finances or human resources (ex. raising kids) just like running a business.
[08:41] Implementing weekly Level 10 meetings
The weekly Level 10 meetings allows you to share good news, review relationship metrics, discuss highlights and priorities, and identify, discuss, and solve issues.
[13:14] Avoid unproductive communication over important relationship matters
There are two unproductive ways of communicating over important issues: either suppressing problems and building resentment, or unexpectedly bringing things up during fights.
[14:33] Find the balance between fake harmony and open criticism
In a state of artificial harmony, issues are suppressed to avoid conflict, building resentment and passive aggression. On the other side of the spectrum is mean-spiritedness. The goal is to have honest yet healthy discussions that seek the middle ground of truth.
[15:30] How to bring up issues during relationship meetings
The issues should not be impromptu but rather both partners should have access to a prepared list of topics they are ready to address in a structured manner.
[17:08] Conducting annual vision sessions
Adam and his wife also conduct annual vision and goal-setting sessions after the holidays to define values, envision 10-year goals, determine 3-year priorities and plans for the upcoming year and quarter.